The heading should remind you of the rather famous song of Justin timberlake, the super hit song that got the accolades from all in the world. Its also one of the favorites of my younger bro and he keeps listening to it. After a while of me listening it from him, decided to play it for myself and man!! its one awesome song, lyrics written straight from heart and so meaningful. I loved it, also, coz i am sure it carries a significance in life. Here's the lyrics for you: -
Hey girl, is he everything you wanted in a man
You know I gave you the world
You had me in the palm of your hand
So why your love went away
I just can’t seem to understand
Thought it was me and you babe
Me and you until the end
But I guess I was wrong
Don’t want to think about it
Don’t want to talk about it
I’m just so sick about it
Can’t believe it’s ending this way
Just so confused about it
Feeling the blues about it
I just can’t do without ya
Tell me is this fair?
Is this the way it’s really going down?
Is this how we say goodbye?
Should’ve known better when you came around
That you were gonna make me cry
It’s breaking my heart to watch you run around
‘Cause I know that you’re living a lie
That’s okay baby ’cause in time you will find…
What goes around, goes around, goes around
Comes all the way back around...... (4)
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The song is long and i dont want to put the entire thing in here (you can find it on http://www.starmometer.com/2007/01/03/what-goes-around-justine-timberlake-mp3-lyrics/). Rather i want to add to the aura created by this song. There is another one which is by "gloria gaynor", the song was also used in Rock on!! (Purab sings it in channel V's party) "I will survive", here are the lyrics (again only a reference the complete version is at http://www.energyexpressband.com/lyrics/wedding%20lyrics%20i%20will%20survive%20gloria%20gaynor.htm)
First I was afraid, I was petrified!
Kept thinkin' I could never live without you by my side
But then I spent so many nights thinking how you did me wrong,
and I grew strong, and I learned how to get along.
So now you're back from outer space,
I just walked in to find you here with that sad look upon your face
I should have changed that stupid lock, I should have made you leave your key
If I had known for just one second you'd be back to bother me.
CHORUS
Go on now go, walk out the door.
Just turn around now, cause you're not welcome anymore.
Weren't you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye?
You think I'd crumble? You think I'd lay down and die?
Oh no not I! I will survive!
Oh, as long as I know how to love, I know I'll stay alive.
I've got all my life to live,
And I've got all my love to give,
I'll survive, I will survive!
Hey hey..
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And you'd think the reference of the context in here, pure simply nothing ;) just for the people who have been there in thick and thin of my life could make sense out of it. And all those people, who stood by me when i was down and out, you guys got to meet the person who made the difference. Yep! you bet, its Nidhi. my wife.....
Youre my man, my mighty king, And I'm the jewel in your crown
Most people believe that when you love someone you need not to show coz love is something divine. However, I belong to a different school of thought. I believe that it is important for one to express love in as many words as one can. Though most often I and my chota (I fondly call Nidhi-My lady as "chota" or "chotu") keep saying those three magical words to each other, today, its different, today she has sent me a poem showing her love for me.
Now again, most people will say that i am over reacting to such a simple situation, but it is an important day for me coz she has surfed, selected and sent a poem to me. Now, I am sure you would understand that sending a text is much easier then sending a poem. This, also is, important as today it marks a beginning of a journey, a journey that would take me and nidhi to a new height in life. A place where we would be complimenting each other in the best possible way. A place where there would be no dearth of words to express our love for each other. Needless to say, I am happy. And needless to say, we seek all the blessings.
Here is what she had sent to me (No copyrights claimed)
You're my man, my mighty king,
And I'm the jewel in your crown,
You're the sun so hot and bright,
I'm your light-rays shining down,
You're the sky so vast and blue,
And I'm the white clouds in your chest,
I'm a river clean and pure,
Who in your ocean finds her rest,
You're the mountain huge and high,
I'm the valley green and wide,
You're the body firm and strong,
And I'm a rib bone on your side,
You're an eagle flying high,
I'm your feathers light and brown,
You're my man, my king of kings,
And I'm the jewel in your crown.
To Chota,
Indeed I am your man, and i shall be till God parts us. Indeed you are a jewel in my crown, the one that the world sees and appreciates. Indeed I am the sun and you my rays, the rays that bring the glory to me. Yes, i am all the adjectives that you have used in here and you are my reason to be one. Together we are, and together we will. Always remember a sun isn’t a sun unless the rays are there and a crown isn’t glowing unless the jewel is in it. Similarly I won’t be what I am unless I have your hand in mine, together we are "Deep-nidhi" and we shall always be.
Now again, most people will say that i am over reacting to such a simple situation, but it is an important day for me coz she has surfed, selected and sent a poem to me. Now, I am sure you would understand that sending a text is much easier then sending a poem. This, also is, important as today it marks a beginning of a journey, a journey that would take me and nidhi to a new height in life. A place where we would be complimenting each other in the best possible way. A place where there would be no dearth of words to express our love for each other. Needless to say, I am happy. And needless to say, we seek all the blessings.
Here is what she had sent to me (No copyrights claimed)
You're my man, my mighty king,
And I'm the jewel in your crown,
You're the sun so hot and bright,
I'm your light-rays shining down,
You're the sky so vast and blue,
And I'm the white clouds in your chest,
I'm a river clean and pure,
Who in your ocean finds her rest,
You're the mountain huge and high,
I'm the valley green and wide,
You're the body firm and strong,
And I'm a rib bone on your side,
You're an eagle flying high,
I'm your feathers light and brown,
You're my man, my king of kings,
And I'm the jewel in your crown.
To Chota,
Indeed I am your man, and i shall be till God parts us. Indeed you are a jewel in my crown, the one that the world sees and appreciates. Indeed I am the sun and you my rays, the rays that bring the glory to me. Yes, i am all the adjectives that you have used in here and you are my reason to be one. Together we are, and together we will. Always remember a sun isn’t a sun unless the rays are there and a crown isn’t glowing unless the jewel is in it. Similarly I won’t be what I am unless I have your hand in mine, together we are "Deep-nidhi" and we shall always be.
रंजिश ही सही
The title might make you go down the memory lane. Trust me we would have said "Get lost, i dont want to see you again in life" more then once in life and i am sure more then once we would've heard it. Also, i am sure there would be just this someone whom you hated at some point in time in life and yet there is this time when you want that someone to come back to you. And you sit begging saying
Here is to you all...
"रंजिश ही सही दिल ही दुखाने के लिए आ
आ फिर से मुझे छोड़ के जाने के लिए आ"
Here is to you all...
रंजिश ही सही दिल ही दुखाने के लिए आ
आ फिर से मुझे छोड़ के जाने के लिए आ ।
रंजिश=enmity
पहले से मरासिम न सही फिर भी कभी तो
रस्म-ओ-रह-ए-दुनिया ही निभाने के लिए आ ।
मरासिम=agreements/relationships, रस्म-ओ-रह-ए-दुनिया=customs and traditions of the society
किस किस को बताएँगे जुदाई का सबब हम
तू मुझ से ख़फ़ा है तो ज़माने के लिए आ ।
सबब=reason, ख़फ़ा=angry
कुछ तो मेरे पिन्दार-ए-मुहब्बत का भरम रख
तू भी तो कभी मुझ को मनाने के लिए आ ।
पिन्दार=pride
एक उम्र से हूँ लज़्ज़त-ए-गिरिया से भी महरूम
ऐ राहत-ए-जाँ मुझ को रुलाने के लिए आ ।
लज़्ज़त-ए-गिरिया=taste of sadness/tears, महरूम=devoid of, राहत-ए-जाँ=peace of life
अब तक दिल-ए-ख़ुश’फ़हम को तुझ से हैं उम्मीदें
ये आख़िरी शम्में भी बुझाने के लिए आ ।
दिल-ए-ख़ुश’फ़हम=optimistic heart, शम्में=candles
That’s great poetry ! Magnificient expression of melancholy ! And Runa Laila’s silken voice just weaves magic…This was also sung by Mehdi Hasan but was immortalized by Runa Laila. I like the one sung by Mr. Mehdi Hasan sahab over the one sung by Runa laila, I dont know when and i just dont remeber where i heard this for the first time, but since that day this has been my most favorite ghazal.
For you all...
I Love you
Most of us have either said this phrase or have heard it. If not from/to someone then i am sure that if u would've seen any of the bollywood flick then you would've come across this phrase. I often wonder whats so magical about this phrase? Why is that the moment one listens to these words, the entire brain stops thinking logically or why is that we become complacent once we hear this? I would like to take a dig at it in this blog.
I have often questioned the functioning of the brain and the act that's responsible for human actions. I believe that most part of our brain is logical and understands things in binary. The remaining part is the emotional part, which manipulates binary to justify the deeds. Which also means that if by some means one can capture the logical part of the brain, the emotional part will automatically gets captured.
Now coming back to what happens when brain listens these three magical words. I am sure with different people have different pitch of sound the harmonic impact can directly be ruled out. However, if we read these words as three different power shots (i cant say gun shots!!) these have just the right impact to make your brain loose the logical sense.
So, when a person says "i love you" i believe that these are the decoded messages that go in the brain...
1) I care for you
2) I want to spend rest of my life with you
3) I see a future with you
4) I want to have a family with you..etc...etc...
Now, i think that out of these if the brain interprets the statement to mean as point no 1 then i am sure it would leave all logical sense behind and would let the body loose. Which is probably why the literates define the situation as "weakening of the knees" in case of a lady.
Having said this, what happens when u switch off your logical sense off? first thing, you present yourself to be taken for a joy "ride". Now if the other fellow is only interested in "ride" then God help you. But if he/she is really interested in taking care of you, then they would do all thats possible in the world to make your life comfortable. Even if that means going to the maximum limit.
For males, i believe when they say that they love someone, it occupies atleast 50% of their memory. The 50% that i talk is of the part of their NON-oFFICE day. Males tend to be more indulgent in work (u can blame creator for that) and then after that the next most important thing is their hobby. If a male says that he loves his girl over the best thing that he wants to do then i am sure he is lying. Also, males believe that if someone has used these words with him, then by its basic understanding that someone would've taken everything that a male does as a part of their life, which i am afraid in not true in most cases.
For females, when they say i love you, they mean it, every single word, every single time. They divide their life into two parts, 1) Their love interest and 2) the rest. Obviously the first part take most of the time.
Which again brings us to a point where it becomes very clear, that despite it looking so logical "I love you" is the most complicated of the statements.I turns your day upside down, it makes you stop thinking, it makes to get dressed up, it makes you take bath(for males!!), it makes you clean your room (coz she might bump in to find your most important covers on the bed!!), it makes you learn a few good english romantic songs, it most definitely makes you a poet, it makes you talk politely, ... the list is endless.
But what i see these days is the most prolific of the statements, its getting converted into a fashion statement. People are using it more for a regular company then having to feel its actual power.
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I have often questioned the functioning of the brain and the act that's responsible for human actions. I believe that most part of our brain is logical and understands things in binary. The remaining part is the emotional part, which manipulates binary to justify the deeds. Which also means that if by some means one can capture the logical part of the brain, the emotional part will automatically gets captured.
Now coming back to what happens when brain listens these three magical words. I am sure with different people have different pitch of sound the harmonic impact can directly be ruled out. However, if we read these words as three different power shots (i cant say gun shots!!) these have just the right impact to make your brain loose the logical sense.
So, when a person says "i love you" i believe that these are the decoded messages that go in the brain...
1) I care for you
2) I want to spend rest of my life with you
3) I see a future with you
4) I want to have a family with you..etc...etc...
Now, i think that out of these if the brain interprets the statement to mean as point no 1 then i am sure it would leave all logical sense behind and would let the body loose. Which is probably why the literates define the situation as "weakening of the knees" in case of a lady.
Having said this, what happens when u switch off your logical sense off? first thing, you present yourself to be taken for a joy "ride". Now if the other fellow is only interested in "ride" then God help you. But if he/she is really interested in taking care of you, then they would do all thats possible in the world to make your life comfortable. Even if that means going to the maximum limit.
For males, i believe when they say that they love someone, it occupies atleast 50% of their memory. The 50% that i talk is of the part of their NON-oFFICE day. Males tend to be more indulgent in work (u can blame creator for that) and then after that the next most important thing is their hobby. If a male says that he loves his girl over the best thing that he wants to do then i am sure he is lying. Also, males believe that if someone has used these words with him, then by its basic understanding that someone would've taken everything that a male does as a part of their life, which i am afraid in not true in most cases.
For females, when they say i love you, they mean it, every single word, every single time. They divide their life into two parts, 1) Their love interest and 2) the rest. Obviously the first part take most of the time.
Which again brings us to a point where it becomes very clear, that despite it looking so logical "I love you" is the most complicated of the statements.I turns your day upside down, it makes you stop thinking, it makes to get dressed up, it makes you take bath(for males!!), it makes you clean your room (coz she might bump in to find your most important covers on the bed!!), it makes you learn a few good english romantic songs, it most definitely makes you a poet, it makes you talk politely, ... the list is endless.
But what i see these days is the most prolific of the statements, its getting converted into a fashion statement. People are using it more for a regular company then having to feel its actual power.
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Ego, atitude and life
Another piece on the humans that belong to the better half of the world. If you have read earlier blogs, you would realise that i have most simple brain in the world which means that i am only good with linear equations in life with two variables. Where in if i make one variable as constant and equate the next with another pre-defined constant the solution can exist. Offcourse i can most happily keep changing the values of both the variable that i have chosen as constant and the constant that i am going to equate the remaining variable with. Phew!! okies with the precedence set let me take a plunge into the topic that has made me compose this piece.
Human ego, human attitude and life lets take these variables and try and study a linear relationship amongst these. Also, we would understand each one of these and the parameters that influence them before concluding the relationship and find out if there can be a healthy outcome of these most complex things in anyones life.
Human ego, i suppose the parameter that influence this particular variable is the education. Now most of you would jump on to the debate "Education imparts wisdom" hence how can it impart ego-ism. I would like to tell you about a friend of mine, Sanjay, who had given a beautiful definition for this circumstance. He says that indeed education imparts wisdom and hence makes human humble but its the completeness of the education that decides whether the person would grow to become humble or whether he would grow to become arrogant. I conclude this variable by saying that that the phrase "Education imparts wisdom" is only half articulated unless we add another one to it which says "Half knowledge makes noise". Hence human ego can most certainly be controlled and killed only when one completes the entire cycle of education.
Human attitude, this is the brightest parameter in ones life. The seniors say that its the "attitude that determines altitude" (Punch line for INI Consulting's tee's) which most certainly is true. But the point of argument in here is not what it determines, rather, its the effect when it becomes negative. A person with a negative attitude can most certainly feel insecure about almost everything, be it love, life, work, family, etc. And am sure you know how a person with a negative attitude tends to behave. He is craving for attention, crying foul over everything, and most certainly trying to get away from all that is around him.
Now combine this with Human ego and what you would come across is a combination that determines what kind of life you would have. Sure then, lets start playing the game. Let me have a person with Positive attitude towards everything that he does (a constant) and let me fix his life as "Bad". Which would definitely reflect that he has huge ego. Which means that if tries to get "right" education and shed his inhibitions he would go on to transform his life into a good one.
Lets taken another example in the similar context. Let me have a person with Positive attitude towards everything that he does (a constant)and let me fix his life as "Good". Now the picture changes because the only possibility that exists in this case is the person also has a "manageable" ego. Which means that he neither rates himself too high nor too low vis-à-vis the world. Which also means that he has the patience to listen to the world as he would give equal opportunity to the world to put forward the points. Hence if i have to sum it up then the theory of relativity becomes prominent in the sense that i would pick and chose whats best suited for me and my growth as an individual.
The combinations can be several and you can continue this debate amongst the group that you generally debate in. I believe that the outcome will be quiet an eye opener for you.
In short, i have learnt this in my life, as you proceed in you journey upwards to the corporate pinnacle you need to have a right mix of Ego and attitude. Also, you need to shed your inhibitions to grow in life.
Human ego, human attitude and life lets take these variables and try and study a linear relationship amongst these. Also, we would understand each one of these and the parameters that influence them before concluding the relationship and find out if there can be a healthy outcome of these most complex things in anyones life.
Human ego, i suppose the parameter that influence this particular variable is the education. Now most of you would jump on to the debate "Education imparts wisdom" hence how can it impart ego-ism. I would like to tell you about a friend of mine, Sanjay, who had given a beautiful definition for this circumstance. He says that indeed education imparts wisdom and hence makes human humble but its the completeness of the education that decides whether the person would grow to become humble or whether he would grow to become arrogant. I conclude this variable by saying that that the phrase "Education imparts wisdom" is only half articulated unless we add another one to it which says "Half knowledge makes noise". Hence human ego can most certainly be controlled and killed only when one completes the entire cycle of education.
Human attitude, this is the brightest parameter in ones life. The seniors say that its the "attitude that determines altitude" (Punch line for INI Consulting's tee's) which most certainly is true. But the point of argument in here is not what it determines, rather, its the effect when it becomes negative. A person with a negative attitude can most certainly feel insecure about almost everything, be it love, life, work, family, etc. And am sure you know how a person with a negative attitude tends to behave. He is craving for attention, crying foul over everything, and most certainly trying to get away from all that is around him.
Now combine this with Human ego and what you would come across is a combination that determines what kind of life you would have. Sure then, lets start playing the game. Let me have a person with Positive attitude towards everything that he does (a constant) and let me fix his life as "Bad". Which would definitely reflect that he has huge ego. Which means that if tries to get "right" education and shed his inhibitions he would go on to transform his life into a good one.
Lets taken another example in the similar context. Let me have a person with Positive attitude towards everything that he does (a constant)and let me fix his life as "Good". Now the picture changes because the only possibility that exists in this case is the person also has a "manageable" ego. Which means that he neither rates himself too high nor too low vis-à-vis the world. Which also means that he has the patience to listen to the world as he would give equal opportunity to the world to put forward the points. Hence if i have to sum it up then the theory of relativity becomes prominent in the sense that i would pick and chose whats best suited for me and my growth as an individual.
The combinations can be several and you can continue this debate amongst the group that you generally debate in. I believe that the outcome will be quiet an eye opener for you.
In short, i have learnt this in my life, as you proceed in you journey upwards to the corporate pinnacle you need to have a right mix of Ego and attitude. Also, you need to shed your inhibitions to grow in life.
Last three weeks and a bizarre incident in family
It’s been long since I have posted anything in here. The reason being, that I was way too engrossed in a lot of things around my work, family and travel. Also, let me admit that there wasn’t a topic that was coming in my mind to write something upon. Even today I have nothing, or let me put it in this way, I am confused about what to write and where to begin.
Last three weekends have been a hell ride, almost on each weekend we (I and Nidhi) were traveling nothing less then 800 kms. First weekend saw us travel to Thirumala for darshan of Lord Venkateshwara Swami. It was long due as Nidhi had requested Him for this marriage to happen (Read my previous posts to find out the reason). Second weekend there was a ritual back home at Kota and we traveled almost entire stretch of the country to reach there for two days!!.
The third weekend: - In most bizarre of incidences, mom met with an accident just the very next day (Monday) we had returned from home. She was lucky enough to survive and get away with some bruises and a hair line fracture on her color bone. Though she also had a head injury but that proved more of a cut then of anything serious. All we could do is pray and pray hard for God had saved her big time. The place where the accident occurred was one of the busiest areas of town with Trucks and Lorries plying every minute.
Dad called us at night 9pm when the accident had happened at 2 pm. Another example of how much panic had created there. If I know dad, he appears to be cool while he looses it with in himself. So he has to fight a double fight, one with the outer world and one with himself. Reason, he loves mom more than she thinks or more than anyone of us can even claim to know. He never shows it, may be he believes man shouldn’t be emotional or something of the sorts.
I almost lost it, so did munnu. It took lot of efforts from Nidhi to calm us both down and make us think how best and fast can we do something about it. What followed was a series of phone calls to ascertain the situation back home. Needless to say, we couldn’t sleep properly.
Next day was quiet important in office, one client call was pending for long and pressure was mounting. I couldn’t hold my head steady since the time I walked in office. I had no idea as what can I do sitting about 2500 kms from home. Being eldest ideally it is my responsibility to be with dad at this hour of crisis. In came a call from Nidhi and all she said was, check tickets coz we need to travel. This marked a change of behavior in me. Generally the logical in me takes control over the emotional me and I refrain from showing my emotions (read what I wrote about dad). Nidhi helped me over come that threshold with in. I booked the tickets and we were off in a flash for Kota. Again it took a lot of effort from Nidhi to keep me cool. She kept me busy over lot of small things on the airport thereby not letting me think about the event.
We reached jaipur and were off to Kota almost immediately. Another round of struggle in bus, this time the roles shifted, I was keeping Nidhi cool as she was growing anxious. We reached Kota at 5 am and were at home by 5:20 am. Almost immediately we were with mom. Next thing we saw was that she starts to cry, enough to blow my head. Nidhi again pitched in with her thoughts.
What followed for next four days was me getting to see a new Nidhi. At one hand she continued her regular schedule of teasing (in her pursuit of keeping me cool) while on the other hand she was like another mother balancing life between cooking food for the entire house to taking stock of medicines for mom. Such was the balance that even for a single minute we never came to believe that the lady of house is on bed. Indeed wonderful!!.
Cheenu joined us the next day and then mom’s recovery got sped up. The very next day we saw a different person in Mom. Suddenly she wanted to get up from bed and go about doing her regular household work. Everyone was happy all oozing with energy and sole thing being that everyone wanted mom to be good the very moment.
Mom happens to be fine now and she is on her path of getting recovered. But before I close down on this piece I need to summarize a few things: -
1) Your parents need you, no matter where you are and how much you earn, just ensure that you are with them when they need you the most.
2) Often I have heard that Mother-in-laws and Daughter-in-laws don’t get along well, my understanding got changed this time. It has to be from both sides and slightly more from the DIL’s side.
3) When in crisis, take a deep breath before u run in for any decision, this has a particular reference and need not be discussed in here.
4) Son is important, but Daughter-in-law is more important, best if all the mothers love their daughter-in-laws.
All in all, it was bizarre but I came to know a whole new Nidhi. Best is that she has enough power to help me over come my thresholds. What I have witnessed in last one week, is a visual proof of how things can change if we really want them to.
This blog might appear a lot meaning less to you, but its only for a few to appreciate it. And yes, with this last week one person has grown in her stature for me and that’s my lovely wife… Nidhi… Thanks for coming in my life and yes I Love you chotu.. :-)
60 days of being married!!
The title gives you a feel that its something that: -
1) Its about marriage and life after it
2) its about MY marriage and MY life after it.. :)
Lets go slightly back in memory, 15 August 2007 was the day when the country was colored in tri-color and celebrating the Independence day, my friend was getting married in bangalore, i had a holiday, Air deccan offered me an extremly cheap air ticket, i was coming to meet few of my friend after a break of 2 years, and a lot of things.....
Admist all this, i met a lady. Most bizzare things was the way i was dressed up, rather i should be saying messed up.. I wore an orange kurta with jeans and sandles. Now, in most parts of the world this dress, by no means, is considered to be formal. Rather it clasifies in no category. The meeting not only went fine, but i suppose for the first time in my entire life i was able to impress someone or rather confuse someone (Nidhi told me this only few days back that she could understand nothing of what i told her!!). Nonetheless....
17th April, i got married to the same lady (as mentioned above!!). Nothing was going right for all the closest people we due in for sufferings. I came over to bangalore to get the house in order, Nidhi joined me after 4 days. Our first night in bangalore was spent on floor of the common hall coz the fan in the room was not working. Second night and the third night also went in the same way. It was then we got the keys for our new house, and we actually got bed to sleep on.
May 5th, was the day when we actually moved in the house and got things in place. Nidhi cooked food for the first time that night, and i remember two of us seated at the dining table trying to feal the house around us.
Rest of the days in that week just flew by and before we could understand it was 10th may. We packed our bags and bumped into the car to head towards a place called Coorg. We were told that its a kind of a good place and that we could enjoy there. To our pleasant suprise, the place was way too good then what we had thought. We indeed had good time there in the cool and peaceful place.
The rest of the days in May went off in getting house in order, from purchasing materials to setting the maid and the newspaper and the milkman and.... there were so many and's that its almost impossible for me to list them down.
Entered June, most definitely without knocking!!... new things were getting listed, from plumbers for the bathroom to the pulses, and flour, and the vegetables... again so many and's.... admist all this... mummy came over to bangalore and we had to leave everything and set house up for her coz this time it was Nidhi's pretige at stake and by all means me and nidhi had to prove that we are good people. :)
When i woke up this morning and rubbed my eyes, i looked at the newspaper and realised....its 60th day of me being married!!! i was quiet loud while i was thinking that i am saying to myself. Time just flew, and i have done so little.... Mom smiled looked at me and said... good that you remember these things... i can see a definite change in you.. i didnt knew how to react...
Most certainly i have done nothing of the sorts that people do after their wedding, i have not gone on honeymoon, i have not spent time with my wife, i have not bought her a thing... all this after being married to the lady i love so much.
Man in me can easily find excuses, and they can be used as a protection when questions are hurled at you from outer world. But how do i answer myself on this, how can i say that i couldnt buy her a small peck admist 60X24 hours!!!!.... this is so much of a time...
I think i need to change a bit... before she starts feeling that she is been married to me for over a year in just 3 months i need to put in some excitement... i said this to myself and just when i was about to sit upright mom told me that munnu has been given a internal promotion... two events in the same day... i think i need to do something about them.. Nidhi and munnu are most certainly two people who mean a lot to me and i need to give them a suprise today... i need to tell them that i am a changed personality and that i know materials are not important but by virtue of being there they create memories. :)
I have decided to go to shopping complex to see what i can buy for two of them... i have to.. i will update this blog based on the stuff that i did tonight... :)
1) Its about marriage and life after it
2) its about MY marriage and MY life after it.. :)
Lets go slightly back in memory, 15 August 2007 was the day when the country was colored in tri-color and celebrating the Independence day, my friend was getting married in bangalore, i had a holiday, Air deccan offered me an extremly cheap air ticket, i was coming to meet few of my friend after a break of 2 years, and a lot of things.....
Admist all this, i met a lady. Most bizzare things was the way i was dressed up, rather i should be saying messed up.. I wore an orange kurta with jeans and sandles. Now, in most parts of the world this dress, by no means, is considered to be formal. Rather it clasifies in no category. The meeting not only went fine, but i suppose for the first time in my entire life i was able to impress someone or rather confuse someone (Nidhi told me this only few days back that she could understand nothing of what i told her!!). Nonetheless....
17th April, i got married to the same lady (as mentioned above!!). Nothing was going right for all the closest people we due in for sufferings. I came over to bangalore to get the house in order, Nidhi joined me after 4 days. Our first night in bangalore was spent on floor of the common hall coz the fan in the room was not working. Second night and the third night also went in the same way. It was then we got the keys for our new house, and we actually got bed to sleep on.
May 5th, was the day when we actually moved in the house and got things in place. Nidhi cooked food for the first time that night, and i remember two of us seated at the dining table trying to feal the house around us.
Rest of the days in that week just flew by and before we could understand it was 10th may. We packed our bags and bumped into the car to head towards a place called Coorg. We were told that its a kind of a good place and that we could enjoy there. To our pleasant suprise, the place was way too good then what we had thought. We indeed had good time there in the cool and peaceful place.
The rest of the days in May went off in getting house in order, from purchasing materials to setting the maid and the newspaper and the milkman and.... there were so many and's that its almost impossible for me to list them down.
Entered June, most definitely without knocking!!... new things were getting listed, from plumbers for the bathroom to the pulses, and flour, and the vegetables... again so many and's.... admist all this... mummy came over to bangalore and we had to leave everything and set house up for her coz this time it was Nidhi's pretige at stake and by all means me and nidhi had to prove that we are good people. :)
When i woke up this morning and rubbed my eyes, i looked at the newspaper and realised....its 60th day of me being married!!! i was quiet loud while i was thinking that i am saying to myself. Time just flew, and i have done so little.... Mom smiled looked at me and said... good that you remember these things... i can see a definite change in you.. i didnt knew how to react...
Most certainly i have done nothing of the sorts that people do after their wedding, i have not gone on honeymoon, i have not spent time with my wife, i have not bought her a thing... all this after being married to the lady i love so much.
Man in me can easily find excuses, and they can be used as a protection when questions are hurled at you from outer world. But how do i answer myself on this, how can i say that i couldnt buy her a small peck admist 60X24 hours!!!!.... this is so much of a time...
I think i need to change a bit... before she starts feeling that she is been married to me for over a year in just 3 months i need to put in some excitement... i said this to myself and just when i was about to sit upright mom told me that munnu has been given a internal promotion... two events in the same day... i think i need to do something about them.. Nidhi and munnu are most certainly two people who mean a lot to me and i need to give them a suprise today... i need to tell them that i am a changed personality and that i know materials are not important but by virtue of being there they create memories. :)
I have decided to go to shopping complex to see what i can buy for two of them... i have to.. i will update this blog based on the stuff that i did tonight... :)
Marriage-II
It’s less then a month to go from now, before I get married. As far as my relationship is concerned its a fair achievement After all that I and my fiancé have undergone, reaching this day can be explained like triumph of Indian team in a T20 world cup. Immensely satisfying and extremely pretty.
However, I now see myself struggling with a few aspects that i was most definitely and most dramatically used to tell to people. First being am now getting anxious each passing day. Anxious about the gelling of two families with entirely different culture and value system.
If i have to imagine and compare the difference of opinion in the two families, then the first thought that comes to my mind is one metal striking the other with splinters flying all across. The only positive that comes out of this imagination is the fact that the metals bond beyond any force's capacity to set them apart.
Anxiety is something that i have never been scared of. Neither am i worried about the chain of events that would follow for i know this world has more educated people then what were there when my it was my dad's world.
Second aspect that worries me is something called attitude. I most certainly believe that one cannot change his/her attitude. It is way of being for a person and if i ask you to change it overnight, trust me, all hell will break loose. Now think from the point of view of the lady that leaves one family with one set of back ground, culture and value system, and moves into another family with entirely different parameters for the same sets.
At one hand she would be skeptic while on the other she would be scared. According to me here's where the learning from families come into picture. Traditionally in India, all the daughters in family are made to understand about terms like "flexibility", "adapting", now if you look into the richness of the culture of India, these parameters are extremely important. Also, here it’s the mother that is of extremely vital importance. Its the mother that has all the experience in the world by virtue of she undergoing same transition some years back. All the learning’s all through her journey of being a girl to a bride then to be daughter in law and then mother makes her so rich in experience. I suppose, the role of mother becomes so crucial that she can actually control the thought process of her daughter. She holds the keys for the level of anxiety and the fear that her daughter would be having. What if mother herself is skeptic and is anxious and worst if she induces her anxiety in her daughter?
Unlike in western world, in India marriage is not amongst two individuals but it’s between two families. And very clearly, the bond is made by the daughter of one family that becomes daughter in law for another. If not for the ladies in the family am sure we men would be half buffoons even now. :) It’s often difficult to understand why only a girl has to change, why not men. Also, why is it the girl that has to leave her house and come over, why is that the girl has to transform her behavior, attitude and way of being? Now these questions are right there coz it’s visible.
Do we even talk about the transformation a man undergoes after marriage? No, the reason, we say, he gets the girl, he gets family, and he gets stability, blah blah!! Again a lot of "he gets" things. Has anyone even bothered to think about the anxiety that a man would undergo in all this process?
The biggest aspect, till now he was a part of his dad's family, he need not to make any decisions, dad would take care of it, now... its him who got to take them, stand by them and live for them. Ok, if this one sounded clichéd to you then how about this one. Till his marriage there is no woman in his life except his mom, and sis (if any), his life with them had a certain way of being with them and he would have never or seldom negotiated with them. Now in the same 100% space that he has there is another lady that steps in. The balance will shuffle until he gets it right again, but no body sees his struggle for it.
I am not saying that man does certain things and needs support, all I am saying is that it’s not only girl that undergoes a change of profile.
Coming to back to the things that I talked in here there are few clear thoughts: -
1) Anxiety is inevitable in marriage
2) Its learning of your entire up bringing that helps you get a relationship going
3) Mothers play extremely important role, it’s like a captain of a ship, if captain sinks ship sinks. They need to be strong and give courage to their daughters rather then making them anxious and skeptic.
4) A man gives in equal amount of energy in a marriage, it’s only the fact that it all gets hidden under the amount that girl gives in.
All said and done, marriage makes you stable, matured, and yes it makes you a man. I am on that path of being a man from a mere bachelor and yes with all the anxiety that I have I am maturing each passing day.
However, I now see myself struggling with a few aspects that i was most definitely and most dramatically used to tell to people. First being am now getting anxious each passing day. Anxious about the gelling of two families with entirely different culture and value system.
If i have to imagine and compare the difference of opinion in the two families, then the first thought that comes to my mind is one metal striking the other with splinters flying all across. The only positive that comes out of this imagination is the fact that the metals bond beyond any force's capacity to set them apart.
Anxiety is something that i have never been scared of. Neither am i worried about the chain of events that would follow for i know this world has more educated people then what were there when my it was my dad's world.
Second aspect that worries me is something called attitude. I most certainly believe that one cannot change his/her attitude. It is way of being for a person and if i ask you to change it overnight, trust me, all hell will break loose. Now think from the point of view of the lady that leaves one family with one set of back ground, culture and value system, and moves into another family with entirely different parameters for the same sets.
At one hand she would be skeptic while on the other she would be scared. According to me here's where the learning from families come into picture. Traditionally in India, all the daughters in family are made to understand about terms like "flexibility", "adapting", now if you look into the richness of the culture of India, these parameters are extremely important. Also, here it’s the mother that is of extremely vital importance. Its the mother that has all the experience in the world by virtue of she undergoing same transition some years back. All the learning’s all through her journey of being a girl to a bride then to be daughter in law and then mother makes her so rich in experience. I suppose, the role of mother becomes so crucial that she can actually control the thought process of her daughter. She holds the keys for the level of anxiety and the fear that her daughter would be having. What if mother herself is skeptic and is anxious and worst if she induces her anxiety in her daughter?
Unlike in western world, in India marriage is not amongst two individuals but it’s between two families. And very clearly, the bond is made by the daughter of one family that becomes daughter in law for another. If not for the ladies in the family am sure we men would be half buffoons even now. :) It’s often difficult to understand why only a girl has to change, why not men. Also, why is it the girl that has to leave her house and come over, why is that the girl has to transform her behavior, attitude and way of being? Now these questions are right there coz it’s visible.
Do we even talk about the transformation a man undergoes after marriage? No, the reason, we say, he gets the girl, he gets family, and he gets stability, blah blah!! Again a lot of "he gets" things. Has anyone even bothered to think about the anxiety that a man would undergo in all this process?
The biggest aspect, till now he was a part of his dad's family, he need not to make any decisions, dad would take care of it, now... its him who got to take them, stand by them and live for them. Ok, if this one sounded clichéd to you then how about this one. Till his marriage there is no woman in his life except his mom, and sis (if any), his life with them had a certain way of being with them and he would have never or seldom negotiated with them. Now in the same 100% space that he has there is another lady that steps in. The balance will shuffle until he gets it right again, but no body sees his struggle for it.
I am not saying that man does certain things and needs support, all I am saying is that it’s not only girl that undergoes a change of profile.
Coming to back to the things that I talked in here there are few clear thoughts: -
1) Anxiety is inevitable in marriage
2) Its learning of your entire up bringing that helps you get a relationship going
3) Mothers play extremely important role, it’s like a captain of a ship, if captain sinks ship sinks. They need to be strong and give courage to their daughters rather then making them anxious and skeptic.
4) A man gives in equal amount of energy in a marriage, it’s only the fact that it all gets hidden under the amount that girl gives in.
All said and done, marriage makes you stable, matured, and yes it makes you a man. I am on that path of being a man from a mere bachelor and yes with all the anxiety that I have I am maturing each passing day.
The first fight
This article has been picked up in its true sense from a website and the blog doesn't claim that its been written by the author.
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Where the honeymoon ends and the relationship begins.
No matter how blissful a relationship is in the beginning there will come a time when you have your first fight and for many people it is quite traumatic. First fights are scary things. When conflict arises in a once friction free relationship it always gives way to uncertainty. But the first fight can actually be a positive thing; a defining moment in a relationship that actually makes things more solid.
In the early days of falling for each other everything is always rosy. People are on their best behavior. While still immersed in the getting-to-know you stage people tend to bend their expectations to the absolute limit of their tolerances and are more forgiving of the things that may later bother them. But once a comfort level has been reached and there is some security in the relationship that tolerance level shifts back toward an individual’s real-life base line. This is what breeds the first fight.
Once a relationship becomes more established people start acting more themselves. The best behavior honeymoon stage comes to an end, often abruptly and without warning. The first fight threshold is usually reached when one party gets near the other’s line of tolerance and that person finally feels comfortable letting their partner know that they are bothered. With the rules suddenly changed the person on the receiving end of the upset feels confused and defensive. Voila! We have the first fight.
First Fight: The End or a New Beginning?
It is true that the first fight is the end for some couples but it doesn’t have to be. While first fights are never fun they are actually essential to the evolution of a relationship. Nobody, no matter how close or how compatible they may be, agrees on absolutely everything. There will be conflict in even the best most successful relationships. What determines the quality of the relationship isn’t whether or not fights happen but how those fights are played out and resolved. Couples who listen to one another’s concerns and perspectives, who respect the other’s point of view whether they agree with it or not, and who work toward finding a compromise, are most likely to make it through the first fight stronger for the experience.
How you fight is as important, if not more important, than why you fight. Violence of any kind is never healthy and should not ever be excused. Hitting, kicking, throwing things and other physical manifestations of anger are unhealthy ways to communicate upset. They accomplish nothing and always do more harm than good. Same goes for name calling or playing the blame-game. Even if somebody is clearly in the wrong it doesn’t need to be harped on, mentioning it once or twice can lead to resolution but bringing it up over and over can only bring out defensiveness. One exception is when the person who has done wrong won’t admit and apologize, or when they keep doing the same thing over and over. In that case the issue moves beyond bringing up old issues and becomes a question of why those issues keep rising to the surface.
Surviving the First Fight
In order to survive the first fight a couple must be willing to really examine why the fight happened and both people must be ready to make a compromise. The compromise won’t always be equal, one person may have to give more, but compromise not conquest should be the ultimate goal of any conflict. When deciding who should bend there are three important things to ask as a couple; first, who if anybody was in the wrong, second, who will be hurt most by having to make a change, three if the change being asked is reasonable and possible. In the case of clear right and wrong, such as cheating or lying, the person who has done the wrong must be prepared to give up the most in repairing the damage. But rarely are fights started over issues of clear right and wrong. More often than not it is a difference of opinion or a variation in needs that causes couples to fight.
Where the issue of right or wrong is grey, which is the case 98% of the time, the question then becomes one of the degree of compromise that each person must make and that should be decided by who will feel the most harm or discomfort in meeting their partner’s needs. For example, if a girlfriend is very sensitive to friendships with ex-girlfriends the boyfriend needs to ask himself if making her uncomfortable and insecure is worth maintaining those friendships. If it is, which does happen since all relationships do not end badly, he needs to do everything he can do make his girlfriend comfortable with the friendship. He can never be secretive about what he does or says to the ex and ideally should bring the girls together. If it’s not worth damaging a relationship to maintain ties to an ex then the friendship should be put on the back burner. Regardless the primary relationship should always be put first.
How First Fights Make Relationships Stronger
First fights define relationships. They reaffirm the couple’s commitment to one another and if they are worked through properly can make a relationship stronger. While it is always scary to fight for the first time it is important to acknowledge that fights are normal and that they eventually happen in every close relationship. Why you fight is important but it is how you fight that determines whether or not the conflict will strengthen your bond or stretch it to the limit. Break ups are not the inevitable outcome of the first fight although fearing it will lead to a break up is normal. If a first fight leads to a break up it simply means the foundation of the relationship was not very strong. For good relationships the first fight will solidify things. By wanting to work through conflict rather than run away couples show each other that they are there for a long time, not just for a good time. This realization is an important one. First fights are really just signs that your relationship is moving to a new, more intimate and more committed level. Isn’t that a good thing?
Indian hockey!! anyone listening, watching.. appreciating!!
Guys, before i start writing about it read few lines in here: -
India Vs Mexico18-1 (India wins)
Rajpal Singh and Prabhjot Singh scored six and four goals respectively, including a hat-trick apiece.V Ramachandra Raghunath, doubled up and, struck four, while Shivendra Singh (2), Tushar Khandekar (1) and Sardara Singh (1)
India Vs Austria7-3 (India wins)
Dilip Tirkey (9th, 23rd minutes), Shivendra Singh (51st, 55th), Ignace Tirkey (42nd), Bharat Chhikara (53rd) and Rajpal Singh (53rd) struck telling blows.
India Vs Russia8-0 (India wins)
Prabhjot Singh, who is in tremendous form, did the star turn for the Indians, scoring three goals (19th, 29th, 65th minutes) while Dilip Tirkey (14th), Tushar Khandekar (36th), Sardara Singh (48th) and V Ramachandra Raghunath (54th) accounted for the others
Still no mention of them in any cover of any newspaper, are we doing justice to these unsung heroes. Remember our cricket team was in shades until picked up by right set of guys and followed up by frenzy crouds. I do not understand why we arent following hockey which is a quick paced game where fortunes turn at a flick or a drag.
We are beating teams fair and square for quiet sometime now and all that the team gets is a quiet ride in autorickshaw back to their home. So unlike of a country that treats cricket players like demi gods and takes out processions not to mention showering of money if they win any game.
Ok,i agree that our hockey team is not the best in world but neither is our cricket team. Apart from that, even the smallest kid in the block would know dhoni but does anyone even think about prabhjot who is leading like a hero...
pathetic state of affairs.. i dont mind calling this country a rascist country.. so what if we do not differentiate by the color of skin, we definitely do it when it comes to our national game.
for all those people who remember cricket team by heart.. please take some time off and read below the details of indian hockey team that is playing its hearts out to secure the national honor of making it to beijing olympics.
Wake up guys and support them.. they need it...
Team: - Goalkeepers: Bharat Chetri, Baljit Singh.
Defenders: Dilip Tirkey, V R Raghunath, Wiiliam Xalxo, Diwakar Ram.
Midfielders: Gurbaj Singh, Prabodh Tirkey (captain), Bimal Lakra, Sardara Singh, Ignace Tirkey, Vikram Kanth.
Forwards: Rajpal Singh, Prabhjot Singh, Tushar Khandekar, Shivendra Singh, Bharat Chikara, Ajeethesh Rai.
Standbys: Sreejesh (goalkeeper), Samir Baxla (defender), S V Sunil, Birendra Lakra, Roshan Minz, Cheeyanna (all forwards).
Officials: Joaquim Carvalho (chief coach), M P Singh (coach), M Ramesh Parameswsaran (assistant coach), Ganguly Prasad (trainer-SAI, Bangalore), Sreekanth Iyengar (physio), Prasanna (video analyst), Nagaraj (masseur), M M Somayya (technical director) and R K Shetty (manager).
India Vs Mexico18-1 (India wins)
Rajpal Singh and Prabhjot Singh scored six and four goals respectively, including a hat-trick apiece.V Ramachandra Raghunath, doubled up and, struck four, while Shivendra Singh (2), Tushar Khandekar (1) and Sardara Singh (1)
India Vs Austria7-3 (India wins)
Dilip Tirkey (9th, 23rd minutes), Shivendra Singh (51st, 55th), Ignace Tirkey (42nd), Bharat Chhikara (53rd) and Rajpal Singh (53rd) struck telling blows.
India Vs Russia8-0 (India wins)
Prabhjot Singh, who is in tremendous form, did the star turn for the Indians, scoring three goals (19th, 29th, 65th minutes) while Dilip Tirkey (14th), Tushar Khandekar (36th), Sardara Singh (48th) and V Ramachandra Raghunath (54th) accounted for the others
Still no mention of them in any cover of any newspaper, are we doing justice to these unsung heroes. Remember our cricket team was in shades until picked up by right set of guys and followed up by frenzy crouds. I do not understand why we arent following hockey which is a quick paced game where fortunes turn at a flick or a drag.
We are beating teams fair and square for quiet sometime now and all that the team gets is a quiet ride in autorickshaw back to their home. So unlike of a country that treats cricket players like demi gods and takes out processions not to mention showering of money if they win any game.
Ok,i agree that our hockey team is not the best in world but neither is our cricket team. Apart from that, even the smallest kid in the block would know dhoni but does anyone even think about prabhjot who is leading like a hero...
pathetic state of affairs.. i dont mind calling this country a rascist country.. so what if we do not differentiate by the color of skin, we definitely do it when it comes to our national game.
for all those people who remember cricket team by heart.. please take some time off and read below the details of indian hockey team that is playing its hearts out to secure the national honor of making it to beijing olympics.
Wake up guys and support them.. they need it...
Team: - Goalkeepers: Bharat Chetri, Baljit Singh.
Defenders: Dilip Tirkey, V R Raghunath, Wiiliam Xalxo, Diwakar Ram.
Midfielders: Gurbaj Singh, Prabodh Tirkey (captain), Bimal Lakra, Sardara Singh, Ignace Tirkey, Vikram Kanth.
Forwards: Rajpal Singh, Prabhjot Singh, Tushar Khandekar, Shivendra Singh, Bharat Chikara, Ajeethesh Rai.
Standbys: Sreejesh (goalkeeper), Samir Baxla (defender), S V Sunil, Birendra Lakra, Roshan Minz, Cheeyanna (all forwards).
Officials: Joaquim Carvalho (chief coach), M P Singh (coach), M Ramesh Parameswsaran (assistant coach), Ganguly Prasad (trainer-SAI, Bangalore), Sreekanth Iyengar (physio), Prasanna (video analyst), Nagaraj (masseur), M M Somayya (technical director) and R K Shetty (manager).
Hypocarcy and hullabaloo!!!
My posting on www.news.com.au for a reply of Mr. Thompson's posting.Find the original on http://blogs.foxsports.com.au/cricket/index.php/foxsports/comments/hypocrisy_and_hysteria/
Dear Mr.Thompson,
I see that a lot is lost and fought about the things that happened. You know the best benefitted are people are the one who have no knowledge of the game? i believe that you have some sense and knowledge of the game and i presume that you belong to australia (though its clear from your write up). Its a shame that you are not willing to look at the other side.
We, indians, have always believed that if harbajan is guilty then sack him, the question though is that is he actually guilty? between if we see the match over and over again, its quiet clear that the match went on like a crazy outburst for i could only see aussies being extremly desperate like school boys to win it. not to mentioned they celebrated as if had they lost they wouldve been hanged. For your reference i would like to state a few facts: -
1) Rashid latif (Pak) was banned for 5 (Five!!) matches when he claimed (!!!) to have taken a catch when actually he had grounded it. Judge:- Mike Proctor (Aus). Now if he is one person who is unbiased, how did Ricky pointing escaped. Am not willing to understand it?
2) Its quiet astonishing that "Monkey" is a rascist word, for i would surely like to know what you aussies call the animal thats brown, has a black face and the first specie from whole of mankind evolved from, its definitely not a kangaroo!!!. So whats next, someone calling someone else a tiger being an abuse... To us and the sensible lot monkey remains an animal, perhaps you would have a whole new definition for it.
3) Andrew symonds is out, not once, but twice and thrice, he still isnt ashamed of standing there. Leave umpires if you see yourself out of crease and the bails being off, am sure you understand it urself. So are we talking of selective honesty and claiming the world that we are partly honesty. Sir, we believed that atleast honesty is black and white.
4) Am sure CA is rich enough to have big screens on the ground, the ones that show the replays, its quiet astonishing that Ricky ponting couldnt see that he grounded the catch, not only that he also couldnt see that his mate clarke had also grounded it. And he has chivalry to go up and tell the world that he honest. Am sure he should not let his family see this match. They wont believe him after this for all the truth he has being speaking to them till now!!!
5) It a feilders right to appeal, and in all circumstances he should do so, but, excessive appeal is something thats a subjective term. Am suprised that only teams to be confronted with this are the teams other then australia. I do not believe that i have bad eyes and ears, more so, i cant believe that my brain cant understand what australia does and what the rest of the world.
6) Few years back, Mr Ricky ponting was playing against india and he was hit on his helmet by Javagal srinath, immediately srinaths reactions were to walk up to him to find out whether he is ok, to his dismay ponting greeted him with a series of invaluable comments which the whole world saw. What a team spirit and what a sportsman is leading your country.
Dear Sir, its pathetic to see the best brand ambassadors of the game stooping to such cheap levels of methods to win a game. Winning is as important as playing is, and winning is just a part of the game, problems start when you take it to heart.
Difference between a man and a child became visibly clear in the post match press conferences. While Anil handed it peacefully, ricky was crying all over the place, it was more like the tone of a 5 yr okd school boy whose caught red handed doing something that he wasnt suppose to...
In the end, am sure you guys atleast can read this piece coz i wouldnt be suprised if you cant, coz you guys dont even know that a monkey is an animal and not a Racial abuse...ridiculous debate and pathetic australian cricket team. you have done more damage to the game then hansie, atleast he was man enough to take it all in the face.
Dear Mr.Thompson,
I see that a lot is lost and fought about the things that happened. You know the best benefitted are people are the one who have no knowledge of the game? i believe that you have some sense and knowledge of the game and i presume that you belong to australia (though its clear from your write up). Its a shame that you are not willing to look at the other side.
We, indians, have always believed that if harbajan is guilty then sack him, the question though is that is he actually guilty? between if we see the match over and over again, its quiet clear that the match went on like a crazy outburst for i could only see aussies being extremly desperate like school boys to win it. not to mentioned they celebrated as if had they lost they wouldve been hanged. For your reference i would like to state a few facts: -
1) Rashid latif (Pak) was banned for 5 (Five!!) matches when he claimed (!!!) to have taken a catch when actually he had grounded it. Judge:- Mike Proctor (Aus). Now if he is one person who is unbiased, how did Ricky pointing escaped. Am not willing to understand it?
2) Its quiet astonishing that "Monkey" is a rascist word, for i would surely like to know what you aussies call the animal thats brown, has a black face and the first specie from whole of mankind evolved from, its definitely not a kangaroo!!!. So whats next, someone calling someone else a tiger being an abuse... To us and the sensible lot monkey remains an animal, perhaps you would have a whole new definition for it.
3) Andrew symonds is out, not once, but twice and thrice, he still isnt ashamed of standing there. Leave umpires if you see yourself out of crease and the bails being off, am sure you understand it urself. So are we talking of selective honesty and claiming the world that we are partly honesty. Sir, we believed that atleast honesty is black and white.
4) Am sure CA is rich enough to have big screens on the ground, the ones that show the replays, its quiet astonishing that Ricky ponting couldnt see that he grounded the catch, not only that he also couldnt see that his mate clarke had also grounded it. And he has chivalry to go up and tell the world that he honest. Am sure he should not let his family see this match. They wont believe him after this for all the truth he has being speaking to them till now!!!
5) It a feilders right to appeal, and in all circumstances he should do so, but, excessive appeal is something thats a subjective term. Am suprised that only teams to be confronted with this are the teams other then australia. I do not believe that i have bad eyes and ears, more so, i cant believe that my brain cant understand what australia does and what the rest of the world.
6) Few years back, Mr Ricky ponting was playing against india and he was hit on his helmet by Javagal srinath, immediately srinaths reactions were to walk up to him to find out whether he is ok, to his dismay ponting greeted him with a series of invaluable comments which the whole world saw. What a team spirit and what a sportsman is leading your country.
Dear Sir, its pathetic to see the best brand ambassadors of the game stooping to such cheap levels of methods to win a game. Winning is as important as playing is, and winning is just a part of the game, problems start when you take it to heart.
Difference between a man and a child became visibly clear in the post match press conferences. While Anil handed it peacefully, ricky was crying all over the place, it was more like the tone of a 5 yr okd school boy whose caught red handed doing something that he wasnt suppose to...
In the end, am sure you guys atleast can read this piece coz i wouldnt be suprised if you cant, coz you guys dont even know that a monkey is an animal and not a Racial abuse...ridiculous debate and pathetic australian cricket team. you have done more damage to the game then hansie, atleast he was man enough to take it all in the face.
cricket a game in doldrums!!
My letter to editor of indiatimes.com
Dear Sir,
All these talks, articles, etc are waste, let me tell you why
1) Count the number of bans, fines against the rest of the world and against aussies, am sure u would be suprised
2) In exactly same situations a aussie goes scott free while someone else gets banned for 5 games (Rashid latif Vs Ponting)
3) Abusive language comes naturally to aussies and they are only equipped to speak not equipped to hear. so when someone else calls them names they cry and go to big daddy
4) What happened in sydney is not mere bad umpiring. Coz bad umpiring can happen on field but not on TV-3 umpire. Would request you to please dig deeper in to this.
5) Media when treated badly by players of anyother country retaliates strongly, why it hasnt done anything when ponting's arrogance asked the reporter to get out!!
6) Same mike proctor is allowed to fine, ban players at his will while the moment its the aussies he says he believe in them, its good to do so but why? and why not in an indian?
Please save the game of cricket, i had lost it once when hansie came on screen am sure i would loose it again if these aussies are not made to understand a few basic laws of human civilization.
Dear Sir,
All these talks, articles, etc are waste, let me tell you why
1) Count the number of bans, fines against the rest of the world and against aussies, am sure u would be suprised
2) In exactly same situations a aussie goes scott free while someone else gets banned for 5 games (Rashid latif Vs Ponting)
3) Abusive language comes naturally to aussies and they are only equipped to speak not equipped to hear. so when someone else calls them names they cry and go to big daddy
4) What happened in sydney is not mere bad umpiring. Coz bad umpiring can happen on field but not on TV-3 umpire. Would request you to please dig deeper in to this.
5) Media when treated badly by players of anyother country retaliates strongly, why it hasnt done anything when ponting's arrogance asked the reporter to get out!!
6) Same mike proctor is allowed to fine, ban players at his will while the moment its the aussies he says he believe in them, its good to do so but why? and why not in an indian?
Please save the game of cricket, i had lost it once when hansie came on screen am sure i would loose it again if these aussies are not made to understand a few basic laws of human civilization.
Cricket Lost!!
1. Symonds out- not given- goes on to score a century
2. Ponting out-not given- goes on to score a half century
3. Hussey out- not given- goes on to score a century
4. Harbhajan says nothing-out- slapped a 3 match ban for calling "something" to Mr. Symonds that astonishingly no one hears except him and a few others.
Australia, the most respected team in the world cricket, ponting the most respected and highly looked upon as a captain, gilchrist one of the worlds best wicket keeper, message.... stop this stuff mates... you guys as of today stand together where Hansie stood one day...atleast he was man enough to take it on his face...
Disgusting, disrespectful, and astonishingly you still think that u have true sportsmenship... am sure u dont know the meaning of it. U want to win it win it like a man not like school boys!!.
Result: - Australia won the test match while the World of Cricket lost it big time yet again. Am sure not too much left in to be seen in forth coming games.
To me, ricky ponting, Adam gilchrist, Mathew hayden were next best "Men" after Hansie cronje. What Hansie did to world cricket in '98 with his declaration these people did it with their "astonshingly" sick performance in this test match. I think Australia is seriously afraid of loosing a match. Tell me what a weak man does when he is pushed to wall, he shouts, sledges, calls elders that u have called him names, tries to make people push u away rather doing it himself. Now think what australia did.
Trust me, it cant be a mere coincidence that all, both field umpires and a third umpire "favors" australia. I want to believe that things are not going wrong behind the scenes. I seriously want to believe. Atleast Hansie was Man enough to confess it to the world, Mr. Ponting has no clue where the ball was when he took the catch of dhoni coz he said "He thinks" he took it clean... disgusting, pathetic...am sure world cricket has witnessed one of the worst day's in its history.
2. Ponting out-not given- goes on to score a half century
3. Hussey out- not given- goes on to score a century
4. Harbhajan says nothing-out- slapped a 3 match ban for calling "something" to Mr. Symonds that astonishingly no one hears except him and a few others.
Australia, the most respected team in the world cricket, ponting the most respected and highly looked upon as a captain, gilchrist one of the worlds best wicket keeper, message.... stop this stuff mates... you guys as of today stand together where Hansie stood one day...atleast he was man enough to take it on his face...
Disgusting, disrespectful, and astonishingly you still think that u have true sportsmenship... am sure u dont know the meaning of it. U want to win it win it like a man not like school boys!!.
Result: - Australia won the test match while the World of Cricket lost it big time yet again. Am sure not too much left in to be seen in forth coming games.
To me, ricky ponting, Adam gilchrist, Mathew hayden were next best "Men" after Hansie cronje. What Hansie did to world cricket in '98 with his declaration these people did it with their "astonshingly" sick performance in this test match. I think Australia is seriously afraid of loosing a match. Tell me what a weak man does when he is pushed to wall, he shouts, sledges, calls elders that u have called him names, tries to make people push u away rather doing it himself. Now think what australia did.
Trust me, it cant be a mere coincidence that all, both field umpires and a third umpire "favors" australia. I want to believe that things are not going wrong behind the scenes. I seriously want to believe. Atleast Hansie was Man enough to confess it to the world, Mr. Ponting has no clue where the ball was when he took the catch of dhoni coz he said "He thinks" he took it clean... disgusting, pathetic...am sure world cricket has witnessed one of the worst day's in its history.
Script for ekta kapoor!!!!
Chalo ab aapko batate hain… month wise betey kahani poori filmy hai.. read till the end to get complete idea…
- August – 15 – Deepak and Nidhi meet at Barista in Jayanagar, decide that round 1 is ok though would require few more meeting before the final word
- Sept 24- Deepak relocates to Bangalore, and the meetings start between him and Nidhi
- Oct 13- Nidhi goes back home to meet Deepak’s parents, things do not go well and its almost a No, while both had mann hi mann decided to get married –start of fight
- November 2- Nidhi and Deepak spend time at the airport between their flights and the bond grows beyond anyones control
- November 2-12 - Everything went fine and all was getting set
- November 13- Nidhi’s parents come to kota, big misunderstanding created, becomes a complete No. Nidhi cries, fights, yells and tells them flat that if she has to marry it would be Deepak (Landmark statement by the lady)
- November 23- Deepak meets nidhi’s parents at Jaipur airport spends about an hour with them, clarifies everything. Things start moving again
- November 23-Dec 3 fights and more fights
Amidst all this nidhi’s dad travels to kota and performs teeka. - Dec 10 – Nidhi’s dad refuses to Deepak’s dad for wedding.
- Dec 11 – Deepak’s dad refuses to Deepak and everyone asks Deepak and Nidhi to stop meeting hence forth
- Dec 15 – Deepak’s mom makes a land mark statement “Agar main mana kar dungi na to Deepak will not meet Nidhi at all” to Nidhi’s mom. This closes all chapters.
- Dec 16- Deepak makes a phone call to both parents holding Nidhi in his arms, being extremely patient and Nidhi kept on hold him tight for an hour at Corner house. Deepk pleads and pleads for both parents to calm down and re start things. They do but only to start another fight..
- Dec 23- Nidhi goes to Jaipur for her Vacations till 1st
- Dec 23-24 – Nidhi cries and fight profusely seeing this Nidhi’s mom calls up Deepak’s mom and deepak’s mom refuses point blank.
Nidhi continues to cry… Nidhi’s parents start forcing her to meet someone else and cut away from Deepak - Dec- 28- Nidhi locks herself up in her room and cries for whole day, time for Deepak to become SRK.
Deepak calls up kota and tells them that if they don’t get things straightened in two days he will leave country and go away not to marry ever (quiet a foolish thing to say but it worked!!) - Dec 30 – Deepak’s dad meets up with Nidhi’s dad and talk with him in a CAR…yes in a car for over an hour.. Nidhi’s dad says he is willing to give 10 lac as fd but is not willing to do anything…
Deepak’s dad tries to control the events and succeeds after a push here and a pull there.
- Jan1 - Nidhi’s parents travel to Kota
Happy New year!!! Everything is fine now…but because of all the time lost in above mentioned activities the project is to be delayed by a month.. nonetheless, both the client and the host finally agree to work things out.
Itni shiddat se maine tumhen paane ki koshish ki hai, ke har zarre ne mujhe tum se milane ki saazish ki hai,
Kehtey hain ki agar kisi cheez ko dil se chaho to poori kaynaat tumhen usse milane ki koshish mein lagjaati hai, aur is baat ka bhi yakeen ho gaya ki hamari filmon ki tarah hi hamari zindagi mein bhi end mein sab theek ho jaata hai, aur agar theek na ho to woh The end nahin hai doston picture abhi baaki hai..... :)
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