1.A team member goes on leave (out of station for some urgency) and you promise him that you would update the client. You do not do so, instead you tell the blunt lie in front of the team that the fellow was here and has left office about 30 mins back as he was not feeling well. You still do not update the client side lead, who was trying to reach your team member for past 30 mins and is absolutely unaware of all this. Then you sign in into his official account and send the email to his client side lead. Doubling the confusion that though the team member did not picked up the call, he was sending in the email. Thereby creating a complete mis-understanding between your team member and his client side lead.
Worst, when this “poor” team member is being rated on this year’s performance you site the same reason and give him ratings below then what he is expecting without giving any reason. This team member then takes the matter up with the designated program director. The result is baffling; the architect of this whole episode gets “above expectation” as his appraisal ratings and also get promoted.
Ethical?
2.There are 5 module leads in an account which is being handled without a PM/DM/AM or any manager. Out of the five, four actively handle more than 1 projects in the year. They all keep the flag high, with lot of efforts. Almost all of them work on all weekends, late nights, keeping client happy/satisfied at all time. All of them get rated as “Met expectations” while the only one who did not handle any project and performed below par in almost everything that he did, gets an “Above expectations” as rating and get the promotion.
Truly unbiased attitude?
3.When a person works for 10 hours and bills for 10 hours to the client, its expected. But when a person goes on leave, you fill the timesheet for client on the day when the person was absent and since the ERP system has blocked that particular day citing the leave application, you fill in the same number of hours on a weekend in order to match the hours in invoice and bill with the client.
Truly integral?
4.You work hard, and you deliver a module that was never delivered in the history of the account in last four years to near perfection. The client is happy and is willing to offshore more of similar stuff to the team. Client not only sends emails appreciating you but also in all calls refer to your work. And you get the comments as “Need to learn more of the basic stuff”.
A true democratic process?
5.Performance for one is cited for his significantly above expectations ratings while for the other punctuality is being questioned for the similar work and similar behavior.
A true un-biased process
All these happened, people survived through this, there are people who are doing this on a regular basis.
I for some mortal reasons can not understand few thing: -
1.How can there be someone in the capacity of a Manager/lead who cannot express himself/herself in pure simple English.
2.How can there be someone who has spent close to 4 yrs in the same account working on the same application cannot identify simple one line queries.
3.How can someone be asked to pick and drop the boss/lead for a good rating
4.How can someone made to lead a team by being a passive rider on the backs of the individual team members
5.How can you call yourself an integral organization when one of the biggest accounts that you have fudges time sheets on a regular basis?
6.How can you claim to be working towards happy customer and happy people when all you do is listen and forget and not act? Or if you act you promote and pat the wrong guys.
7.How can you be arrogant if you tell the seniors all the above mentioned stuff.
Phew!! Yes I am pained, for because of few people I had to quit my fav organization. Yes I had no other way out, yes I was being bothered every single day. Yes I burns me within when I see people biased to the extent possible. Yes it hurts when I see a non performer being rated above me!!!!!
Arrogance
The word is quiet popular, needless to say that most people use it to define someone else’s personality. The word comes with a negative connotation and if I have to search it in Google/ wikipedia for a definition then the word is defined in English language as “offensive display of superiority or self-importance; overbearing pride.” In short, the person using it, not only spoils his/her self esteem/respect but also, by virtue of his actions, make his/her surroundings suffer.
Now, if you are thinking that I am going to write a blog on this word, then I am afraid you are wrong. What I am going to write in this blog is how this word has affected me, and my personality, along with how I came to know a whole new world of usage for the word. Till now, I was always under the impression that people who are having the personality like the word itself, are to be avoided. Until, someone crowned me as arrogant. This happened with my exit interview at my ex-workplace.
Now obviously I differed in the opinions but then I realized that to a certain extent, each personality has a bit of arrogance, no matter how humble one might pretend. We are arrogant when it comes to the question about our forte. I say that we are arrogant about our forte and not “proud” because I believe there is a very thin line that divides pride and arrogance and I expect a lot of us “mortals” to tread the wrong way.
I also came across a whole new territory where this word is finding popular usage. The territory is “correcting your boss”. This again happened at my ex-workplace and I do not claim it to be omnipresent. The account that I was working for is sitting on a ticking time bomb due to real bad governance from the seniors, hence I decided to move on in life and look beyond my ex-workplace.
I was immediately taken into a room and was asked atleast 10 times as to why I am moving out rather then continuing and what can people do to retain me.
Now,
1. I do not understand why people act so defensively in here. We are not kids and we know what we are doing. So if someone decides to graduate, rather then smoothening the process why do you give a chance to him to blackmail you.
2. I get absolutely astonished in such meetings, when I was not happy and when I was there,when i was writing emails and calling meetings, none of you bothered to meet me and ask me my well being, and suddenly I am being made to look so precious for the company.
So I decided to speak my heart out every-time I was asked to meet someone on the topic. Be it my immediate bosses or people from the HR department of the company or anyone. The result though didn’t surprise me, but left a bad taste in the mouth. I was crowned arrogant with a problematic attitude, and someone who is behaving nothing short of “weird”.
Now, I decided to retrospect myself and my personality. I got confused, coz either the same people are amazing or they are amazingly foolish to have kept me there for 2 long years and continuously rated me high on my project related abilities and my personality traits.
I dug a little deeper.
In India, bosses have this super huge ego, please, not all again, but if I have to put a number to it then 90%+ will fall in this category. One has to be careful with words while pointing out their mistakes. Mince the words and send it down the throat back from where it came from in case you feel like calling your boss a buffoon (even if he or she is actually one). And still if you manage to tell your boss on this face (like the naukri adv of Hari Sadu) then you got to be mentally prepared to hear what I heard about my personality.
It did shake me up a bit, but then I at-least answered my soul; I am no more at a place where truth is termed as arrogance. People do not stand by their words; they rate people on friendship rather then the professional behavior. People get good ratings for picking and dropping their boss from the home even if one has to do a good 14 kms (close to 10 miles) extra one side. And, people who do not work on any project not only get above expectations but also get promoted.
People who know me call me careless, problem with prioritizing things, issues with memory and few other names. But none so far called me arrogant, but if I am one, then as I said I do not have a problem with it. I would just be a little careful. But if I am not, then I deserve a little better treatment then what I got. Worst, my bosses didn’t even have slightest of guts to call me and fix me up. This has actually resulted in a wrong learning which I will have to correct. End of the day a boss is a boss and he/she commands respect by mere personality. I have to unlearn every behavior trait that I picked up during last 2 yrs and learn new way coz not all bosses are buffoons, they are people to be looked upon for guidance. They do not hide behind curtains, they rather lead you from the front.
And pardon me, if I am wrong, please feel free to correct me, I am not arrogant when it comes to taking feedbacks. :)
Now, if you are thinking that I am going to write a blog on this word, then I am afraid you are wrong. What I am going to write in this blog is how this word has affected me, and my personality, along with how I came to know a whole new world of usage for the word. Till now, I was always under the impression that people who are having the personality like the word itself, are to be avoided. Until, someone crowned me as arrogant. This happened with my exit interview at my ex-workplace.
Now obviously I differed in the opinions but then I realized that to a certain extent, each personality has a bit of arrogance, no matter how humble one might pretend. We are arrogant when it comes to the question about our forte. I say that we are arrogant about our forte and not “proud” because I believe there is a very thin line that divides pride and arrogance and I expect a lot of us “mortals” to tread the wrong way.
I also came across a whole new territory where this word is finding popular usage. The territory is “correcting your boss”. This again happened at my ex-workplace and I do not claim it to be omnipresent. The account that I was working for is sitting on a ticking time bomb due to real bad governance from the seniors, hence I decided to move on in life and look beyond my ex-workplace.
I was immediately taken into a room and was asked atleast 10 times as to why I am moving out rather then continuing and what can people do to retain me.
Now,
1. I do not understand why people act so defensively in here. We are not kids and we know what we are doing. So if someone decides to graduate, rather then smoothening the process why do you give a chance to him to blackmail you.
2. I get absolutely astonished in such meetings, when I was not happy and when I was there,when i was writing emails and calling meetings, none of you bothered to meet me and ask me my well being, and suddenly I am being made to look so precious for the company.
So I decided to speak my heart out every-time I was asked to meet someone on the topic. Be it my immediate bosses or people from the HR department of the company or anyone. The result though didn’t surprise me, but left a bad taste in the mouth. I was crowned arrogant with a problematic attitude, and someone who is behaving nothing short of “weird”.
Now, I decided to retrospect myself and my personality. I got confused, coz either the same people are amazing or they are amazingly foolish to have kept me there for 2 long years and continuously rated me high on my project related abilities and my personality traits.
I dug a little deeper.
In India, bosses have this super huge ego, please, not all again, but if I have to put a number to it then 90%+ will fall in this category. One has to be careful with words while pointing out their mistakes. Mince the words and send it down the throat back from where it came from in case you feel like calling your boss a buffoon (even if he or she is actually one). And still if you manage to tell your boss on this face (like the naukri adv of Hari Sadu) then you got to be mentally prepared to hear what I heard about my personality.
It did shake me up a bit, but then I at-least answered my soul; I am no more at a place where truth is termed as arrogance. People do not stand by their words; they rate people on friendship rather then the professional behavior. People get good ratings for picking and dropping their boss from the home even if one has to do a good 14 kms (close to 10 miles) extra one side. And, people who do not work on any project not only get above expectations but also get promoted.
People who know me call me careless, problem with prioritizing things, issues with memory and few other names. But none so far called me arrogant, but if I am one, then as I said I do not have a problem with it. I would just be a little careful. But if I am not, then I deserve a little better treatment then what I got. Worst, my bosses didn’t even have slightest of guts to call me and fix me up. This has actually resulted in a wrong learning which I will have to correct. End of the day a boss is a boss and he/she commands respect by mere personality. I have to unlearn every behavior trait that I picked up during last 2 yrs and learn new way coz not all bosses are buffoons, they are people to be looked upon for guidance. They do not hide behind curtains, they rather lead you from the front.
And pardon me, if I am wrong, please feel free to correct me, I am not arrogant when it comes to taking feedbacks. :)
Walk while you talk!!
Off-late a lot of people walked up to me and asked me about my diet regime coz they noticed that I have reduced my weight without being appearing as stressed out. This made me think what’s happening?. This triggered a thought process which is in sync with the title of this blog.
I found out three important things: -
1. Cut down on sugar in liquid form, which means cut down on the number of tea/coffee/juice intake with sugar. I found this to be important as liquid sugar adds to weight faster then sugar in solid form (sweets etc). This has definitely helped me when I took it as a task
2. While walking, swing your arms, not like you are parading or something, but definitely till at-least a 30 degree angle from your shoulder. This burns additional calories while walking and most certainly makes your shoulders look broad. (Re-distribution of weight happens in here and most of your fat around shoulder and neck region transforms into muscles)
3. Drink water whenever you feel hungry, and if still you feel hungry then go ahead and eat. Most often we feel hungry and we just go and grab something to eat, this trigger might be due to several calculations going around in our brain. Not necessarily every time you feel hungry that your body is in need of energy.
Other then these, there are a few more things that I used as activity, start waking up early, which means, by default you would have a longer day then normal and you automatically burn more calories. Next being, cut down on pizzas, burgers, cold drinks etc remember, I never said to stop, rather I said cut down. Also, work in kitchen, it can be a simple task of getting the utensils back from a dish washer to the shelf, or cooking or anything. Important is work in kitchen.
Finally, being over weight is not such a bad thing, as most certainly there is a difference between being obese (which is a bad thing) and over weight. Ensure that you know yourself better then what people claim to.
Fat, thin, slim, size zero, etc have more to do with your metal understanding rather then your physical appearance. Eat healthy, work out in whatever way you can and chill out, do not take unnecessary tension. What you define as tension is purely your point of view, but trust me, being happy has a lot of impact on being healthy.
Happy eating and be healthy.
I found out three important things: -
1. Cut down on sugar in liquid form, which means cut down on the number of tea/coffee/juice intake with sugar. I found this to be important as liquid sugar adds to weight faster then sugar in solid form (sweets etc). This has definitely helped me when I took it as a task
2. While walking, swing your arms, not like you are parading or something, but definitely till at-least a 30 degree angle from your shoulder. This burns additional calories while walking and most certainly makes your shoulders look broad. (Re-distribution of weight happens in here and most of your fat around shoulder and neck region transforms into muscles)
3. Drink water whenever you feel hungry, and if still you feel hungry then go ahead and eat. Most often we feel hungry and we just go and grab something to eat, this trigger might be due to several calculations going around in our brain. Not necessarily every time you feel hungry that your body is in need of energy.
Other then these, there are a few more things that I used as activity, start waking up early, which means, by default you would have a longer day then normal and you automatically burn more calories. Next being, cut down on pizzas, burgers, cold drinks etc remember, I never said to stop, rather I said cut down. Also, work in kitchen, it can be a simple task of getting the utensils back from a dish washer to the shelf, or cooking or anything. Important is work in kitchen.
Finally, being over weight is not such a bad thing, as most certainly there is a difference between being obese (which is a bad thing) and over weight. Ensure that you know yourself better then what people claim to.
Fat, thin, slim, size zero, etc have more to do with your metal understanding rather then your physical appearance. Eat healthy, work out in whatever way you can and chill out, do not take unnecessary tension. What you define as tension is purely your point of view, but trust me, being happy has a lot of impact on being healthy.
Happy eating and be healthy.
Green Revolution
No I am in no way trying to connect to the one started long time back, and no, this isn’t related to recent price rise of food stocks. Instead I had a quiet interesting debate with Vaibhav on this one. This discussion was particularly interesting coz it used the terms that we most easily understand and use in our day to day tasks.
What happens when we over draw from banks, we pay huge interest, correct. Similarly what will happen if we all continue to with draw oxygen at pace where the drawing pace is more then the replenishing pace? The Oxygen stocks will run out and then the next generations would either carry oxygen cylinders or will simply die of suffocation.
Remedy?
Actually very simple, do a quick calculation, a few of the variables can be: -
1. How many people are there in the family
2. How many hours/min of fuel we burn (this includes car, stove etc)
3. How much electricity we consume (this can be seen from your bills)
4. Any other that you think should be
And the plan is simple, plant one tree for each of the activities/items. Which means for the ones that we have stated above we can have the trees planted and named as: -
1. Deepak-Tree (Myself)
2. Nidhi-Tree (My wife)
3. Munnu-Tree (My brother)
4. Gas Tree
5. Bike Tree
6. Electricity Tree
7. One additional Tree
This tree has to be a tree and a shrub or a bon-size plant will not help. This has to be a tree that would last for as long as you will last yourself. The plantation also need not to be in your locality, it can even be a picnic spot that you visit, actually speaking, chances of a tree surviving a picnic spot would be far more then your locality.
The best way to do it is that every time you or your friends go for a picnic, as them to carry one tree for each of the members in the group. These days the trees come in very convenient packages and do not cost much. I guess each tree would be close to 20 bucks, which actually means that each one spending even 50 bucks would get you sufficient trees in the boot of your car. Now if you consider this cost against the benefits you would be surprised to see the amount of help that it would do.
(I definitely would like to claim a copyright on this idea, coz this one is originally mine).
I am starting this, are you with me?
What happens when we over draw from banks, we pay huge interest, correct. Similarly what will happen if we all continue to with draw oxygen at pace where the drawing pace is more then the replenishing pace? The Oxygen stocks will run out and then the next generations would either carry oxygen cylinders or will simply die of suffocation.
Remedy?
Actually very simple, do a quick calculation, a few of the variables can be: -
1. How many people are there in the family
2. How many hours/min of fuel we burn (this includes car, stove etc)
3. How much electricity we consume (this can be seen from your bills)
4. Any other that you think should be
And the plan is simple, plant one tree for each of the activities/items. Which means for the ones that we have stated above we can have the trees planted and named as: -
1. Deepak-Tree (Myself)
2. Nidhi-Tree (My wife)
3. Munnu-Tree (My brother)
4. Gas Tree
5. Bike Tree
6. Electricity Tree
7. One additional Tree
This tree has to be a tree and a shrub or a bon-size plant will not help. This has to be a tree that would last for as long as you will last yourself. The plantation also need not to be in your locality, it can even be a picnic spot that you visit, actually speaking, chances of a tree surviving a picnic spot would be far more then your locality.
The best way to do it is that every time you or your friends go for a picnic, as them to carry one tree for each of the members in the group. These days the trees come in very convenient packages and do not cost much. I guess each tree would be close to 20 bucks, which actually means that each one spending even 50 bucks would get you sufficient trees in the boot of your car. Now if you consider this cost against the benefits you would be surprised to see the amount of help that it would do.
(I definitely would like to claim a copyright on this idea, coz this one is originally mine).
I am starting this, are you with me?
Interference
I have never hated any word in the entire English vocabulary more then the one mentioned in the title of this blog. This by far is the most "convenient" way of derogating someone's concern about your life.
Let me elaborate, how many people in this world are truly bothered about your well being? or let me ask it in a slightly different way, how many people are there in this "materialistic" world who actually are bothered about your well being? before you jump onto answer, i want another piece of trivia to be added to it, and that is, how many people are actually there who come up to you to correct you?
And i am sure, if people are walking up to you to correct you in one way or the other, it is imperative that they would definitely be high on your advisory list too. Now, what you do when someone of this stature walks upto you? You either listen to them or you do not listen to them.
Till this level things are fine, now let me come to the real stuff that pains me the most. When someone has come to give a piece of advice, rather then listening things up if you jump on and call that person names for interfering in your life, how do you expect that person to ever hold your hand when you are falling. Now this can be true if the person who is giving an advice is a) younger to you with less exp on the topic or b) who is someone of less relevance in life.
Now if both the points are not true and you still call it an interference, will it be correct?
Yes i understand words can be a bit different then they would appear to you, but dont you think that whoever has come to correct you wont bother about wasting time and energy over choosing the right word, rather the person would focus on the message being clearly given.
Its so saddening to see that people with adamancy about they being extremly superior breed often call advice of elders/seniors/contemporaries as interference. I believe they do so coz they have no idea of what they stand to loose.
One thing is for sure, i only come across such people as frustrated, ill-equipped for any job, non-achievers, ardent self destructors and full of un-due anger. Its difficult to correct such people. Its often good to leave such people to God's mercy who in His own sweet way takes care of such people in his own sweet way by frustrating them further with self imposed destruction methodologies.
Let me elaborate, how many people in this world are truly bothered about your well being? or let me ask it in a slightly different way, how many people are there in this "materialistic" world who actually are bothered about your well being? before you jump onto answer, i want another piece of trivia to be added to it, and that is, how many people are actually there who come up to you to correct you?
And i am sure, if people are walking up to you to correct you in one way or the other, it is imperative that they would definitely be high on your advisory list too. Now, what you do when someone of this stature walks upto you? You either listen to them or you do not listen to them.
Till this level things are fine, now let me come to the real stuff that pains me the most. When someone has come to give a piece of advice, rather then listening things up if you jump on and call that person names for interfering in your life, how do you expect that person to ever hold your hand when you are falling. Now this can be true if the person who is giving an advice is a) younger to you with less exp on the topic or b) who is someone of less relevance in life.
Now if both the points are not true and you still call it an interference, will it be correct?
Yes i understand words can be a bit different then they would appear to you, but dont you think that whoever has come to correct you wont bother about wasting time and energy over choosing the right word, rather the person would focus on the message being clearly given.
Its so saddening to see that people with adamancy about they being extremly superior breed often call advice of elders/seniors/contemporaries as interference. I believe they do so coz they have no idea of what they stand to loose.
One thing is for sure, i only come across such people as frustrated, ill-equipped for any job, non-achievers, ardent self destructors and full of un-due anger. Its difficult to correct such people. Its often good to leave such people to God's mercy who in His own sweet way takes care of such people in his own sweet way by frustrating them further with self imposed destruction methodologies.
Kuch "Nagme" kuch "pal"
Sometime back in my life, i found a unique way of passing out my low moments of life. I started penning down my thoughts in form of one or two liners. Here's a glimpse of my collection. In no way i claim to be a poet, these are just my expression. Please feel free to drop by and comment on them, i will be truly grateful
Regards
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Deedar-e-yaar itna aasaan kabhie na tha-2
Jub bhi hota hai maan, ankhen band kar leta hun
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Pyar ko na pane ki kuch aisi saza mukarrar ki hum ne
Zinda bhi rahey aur jiye bhi nahin
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Tujhe kya bataun dost mohabbat kya hoti hai,
Who dil, dua, shamma hoti hai;
Ashikon se na poocho unki raat ka aalam,
unki raatein to bina sitaron ke bhi jawaan hoti hain.
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Uski Mohabbat Mein Dil Deewana Hogaya Hai
Yeh Apne Aap Se Begana Hogaya Hai
Kaash Koi Ja Ke Yeh Bataye Shamma Ko
Ki Uski Chahat Mein koi Parwana Hogaya Hai
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Hum parwano se poocho ishq ki kahani-2
shamma ke saath rehtey hain shamma pe martey hain
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Kuch aisa raha aalaam ki tumhari yaad aati rahi-2
bas na jaane kyun aisa hone laga ki jeene ki khwahish jaati rahi.
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Zindagi ki shuruat hui thi jub hum mile the unse,
fir kuch aisa hua ki bas zindagi tham gayi,
sanse to chalti rahi bas dil ki dhadkan ruk gayi......
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Mujhe kya pata tanhai ka aalam..maine to bas pyar kiya hai...
dil ne jub jub bhi chaha mehboob ka deedar kiya hai...
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Is kadar tujhe chaha ki fir kuch chah na sake,
Itna jiye terey saath ke terey bina bas jee na sake
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Zindagi ki kwahishen kuch kum reh gayi,
chand raatein kuch kum reh gayi,
Pyar to unko bahut kiya,
magar shayad humari aahen kuch kum reh gayi
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Socha tha jaisa waisa hi jivan to hai magar,
ab aur kis talash mein bechain hai nazar,
Kudrat bhi meharbaan hai dariyadillli ke sath,
Fhir bhi koi kami si hai kyun jindgi ke sath.
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pyar ne ye kaisa tohfa de diya humko;
gumo ne pathar bana diya humko,
teri yaadon main hi kat gayi ye umar,
par kehta raha kab ka bhula diya tumko.
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hasrat hai humen khud ko mitane ki...
hasrat hai humen khud ko mitane ki...
kash jeene ki khwahish yun khatum na ho gayi hoti...
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ab shayri se hi khushi aati hai chehron pe warana aansuon ka kya hai...
ab shayri se hi khushi aati hai chehron pe warana aansuon ka kya hai...
do pocchte hain char nikalte hain...
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yehi to kahani hai is bedard zindagi ki...
yehi to kahani hai is bedard zindagi ki...
hum kehte hi rahey ki hum wafai karenge
par unhe tha wishwaas ki bewafi ka aalam hai...
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In shabdon ko kya tarz de...
zabaan kahen ki dil ki aawaaz...
bas yehi samjh lijiye ki ab "namaste" bhi karte hain
to "aadaab" nikalta hai...
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dil ki kya kahen yeh to be gairat hai...
dil ki kya kahen yeh to be gairat hai;
jo dukh deta hai yeh usi pe marta hai.
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hum chodd chuke hain jo baazar..
hum chodd chuke hain jo baazar..
kamal to yeh hai ki reh reh ke wohi rahen humen bulati hain.. :)
kitna bhi chahen bhul jayen un himakatoon ko..
par har baar aur haseen hokar wohi saamne aa jaati hain..
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nafa-nuksaan hi sochte to fir baat hi kya thi...
nafa-nuksaan hi sochte to fir baat hi kya thi...
yahan to dard-e-dil ke mureed hain,
muskaan pe jaan de detey hain... :)
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kamal hotey hain kuch log
nazar aatey rookhe kuch log
bhara hota hai dariya-e-ishq seene mein,
nazar aatey hain sirf ek jharna kuch log
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yun to duniya mein haseen bahut hai
yun to ...duniya mein haseen bahut hai
khuda ne magar chand ek hi banaya hai
banaya hai bahut afreen duniya ko...magar..
yaar mera sirf ek hi banaya hai...
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dekho to halat-e-jahan.. ki..
humne kardi hai zindagi naam jiske,
wohi fayde ki baat karta hai...
kaisa zaalim hai saathi mera...
kaisa zaalim hai saathi mera,
main pyar ki magar woh nafa-nukasaan ki baat karta hai..
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dekh paatey hain unhe yeh kya kam hai...
dekh paatey hain unhe yeh kya kam hai...
Kahin hum mar hi na jayen agar jo woh mil jayen humen
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haq hai unhe humare dil ko dukhane ka;
Khuda ne husn-e-aftaab se nawaja hai unhe,
humara kya hai hum to sirf ek adna se sharare hain,
humara kya hai hum to sirf ek adna se sharare hain,
Jal ke bujh bhi jayen to kya farak padega unhe.
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kamal ki hai adayen,
kamal ki hai adayen,
sharara bhi kehti hain aur mukammal bhi...
Koi in haseenaon se hamen muafi dilaye..
Koi in… haseenaon se hamen muafi dilaye….
Muskurati bhi hain aur jaan bhi leti hain…
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ishq bhi kamal ki cheez hai...
dikhta aankhon mein hai yakeen magar zubaan se chahta hai..
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jab bhi ho dimag pareshaan aur dil hairan..
yahin hi ka raasta farishton ne bataya hai..
zindagi jeena asaan to nahin aur
nahin muh ferna pareshaniyon ka hul,
par jab ho pareshaniyaan inti kaafir ke zindagi haarne lage,
accha hota hai mann behlana
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Regards
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Deedar-e-yaar itna aasaan kabhie na tha-2
Jub bhi hota hai maan, ankhen band kar leta hun
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Pyar ko na pane ki kuch aisi saza mukarrar ki hum ne
Zinda bhi rahey aur jiye bhi nahin
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Tujhe kya bataun dost mohabbat kya hoti hai,
Who dil, dua, shamma hoti hai;
Ashikon se na poocho unki raat ka aalam,
unki raatein to bina sitaron ke bhi jawaan hoti hain.
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Uski Mohabbat Mein Dil Deewana Hogaya Hai
Yeh Apne Aap Se Begana Hogaya Hai
Kaash Koi Ja Ke Yeh Bataye Shamma Ko
Ki Uski Chahat Mein koi Parwana Hogaya Hai
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Hum parwano se poocho ishq ki kahani-2
shamma ke saath rehtey hain shamma pe martey hain
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Kuch aisa raha aalaam ki tumhari yaad aati rahi-2
bas na jaane kyun aisa hone laga ki jeene ki khwahish jaati rahi.
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Zindagi ki shuruat hui thi jub hum mile the unse,
fir kuch aisa hua ki bas zindagi tham gayi,
sanse to chalti rahi bas dil ki dhadkan ruk gayi......
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Mujhe kya pata tanhai ka aalam..maine to bas pyar kiya hai...
dil ne jub jub bhi chaha mehboob ka deedar kiya hai...
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Is kadar tujhe chaha ki fir kuch chah na sake,
Itna jiye terey saath ke terey bina bas jee na sake
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Zindagi ki kwahishen kuch kum reh gayi,
chand raatein kuch kum reh gayi,
Pyar to unko bahut kiya,
magar shayad humari aahen kuch kum reh gayi
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Socha tha jaisa waisa hi jivan to hai magar,
ab aur kis talash mein bechain hai nazar,
Kudrat bhi meharbaan hai dariyadillli ke sath,
Fhir bhi koi kami si hai kyun jindgi ke sath.
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pyar ne ye kaisa tohfa de diya humko;
gumo ne pathar bana diya humko,
teri yaadon main hi kat gayi ye umar,
par kehta raha kab ka bhula diya tumko.
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hasrat hai humen khud ko mitane ki...
hasrat hai humen khud ko mitane ki...
kash jeene ki khwahish yun khatum na ho gayi hoti...
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ab shayri se hi khushi aati hai chehron pe warana aansuon ka kya hai...
ab shayri se hi khushi aati hai chehron pe warana aansuon ka kya hai...
do pocchte hain char nikalte hain...
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yehi to kahani hai is bedard zindagi ki...
yehi to kahani hai is bedard zindagi ki...
hum kehte hi rahey ki hum wafai karenge
par unhe tha wishwaas ki bewafi ka aalam hai...
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In shabdon ko kya tarz de...
zabaan kahen ki dil ki aawaaz...
bas yehi samjh lijiye ki ab "namaste" bhi karte hain
to "aadaab" nikalta hai...
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dil ki kya kahen yeh to be gairat hai...
dil ki kya kahen yeh to be gairat hai;
jo dukh deta hai yeh usi pe marta hai.
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hum chodd chuke hain jo baazar..
hum chodd chuke hain jo baazar..
kamal to yeh hai ki reh reh ke wohi rahen humen bulati hain.. :)
kitna bhi chahen bhul jayen un himakatoon ko..
par har baar aur haseen hokar wohi saamne aa jaati hain..
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nafa-nuksaan hi sochte to fir baat hi kya thi...
nafa-nuksaan hi sochte to fir baat hi kya thi...
yahan to dard-e-dil ke mureed hain,
muskaan pe jaan de detey hain... :)
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kamal hotey hain kuch log
nazar aatey rookhe kuch log
bhara hota hai dariya-e-ishq seene mein,
nazar aatey hain sirf ek jharna kuch log
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yun to duniya mein haseen bahut hai
yun to ...duniya mein haseen bahut hai
khuda ne magar chand ek hi banaya hai
banaya hai bahut afreen duniya ko...magar..
yaar mera sirf ek hi banaya hai...
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dekho to halat-e-jahan.. ki..
humne kardi hai zindagi naam jiske,
wohi fayde ki baat karta hai...
kaisa zaalim hai saathi mera...
kaisa zaalim hai saathi mera,
main pyar ki magar woh nafa-nukasaan ki baat karta hai..
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dekh paatey hain unhe yeh kya kam hai...
dekh paatey hain unhe yeh kya kam hai...
Kahin hum mar hi na jayen agar jo woh mil jayen humen
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haq hai unhe humare dil ko dukhane ka;
Khuda ne husn-e-aftaab se nawaja hai unhe,
humara kya hai hum to sirf ek adna se sharare hain,
humara kya hai hum to sirf ek adna se sharare hain,
Jal ke bujh bhi jayen to kya farak padega unhe.
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kamal ki hai adayen,
kamal ki hai adayen,
sharara bhi kehti hain aur mukammal bhi...
Koi in haseenaon se hamen muafi dilaye..
Koi in… haseenaon se hamen muafi dilaye….
Muskurati bhi hain aur jaan bhi leti hain…
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ishq bhi kamal ki cheez hai...
dikhta aankhon mein hai yakeen magar zubaan se chahta hai..
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jab bhi ho dimag pareshaan aur dil hairan..
yahin hi ka raasta farishton ne bataya hai..
zindagi jeena asaan to nahin aur
nahin muh ferna pareshaniyon ka hul,
par jab ho pareshaniyaan inti kaafir ke zindagi haarne lage,
accha hota hai mann behlana
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A discussion of a lifetime
Deepak and Vaibhav are two people from this Corporate IT world. The following discussion happened when one was made to talk the bad news to his team mates about "downsizing as there is cost cutting and budget constraints". The ideas are purely their own and any resemblance to any one is purely conicidental. Please feel free to post your comments on the discussion.
Thanks..
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Vaibhav: i think saala business me apne jaise leaders ki kami hai ;)
they dont have any idea but cutting their arms
Deepak: hmm.. but bhai jab tak hum leaders banege bahut time nikal gaya hoga..
Vaibhav: gareebi aati hai to kya saala hum hath paon kaat lete hai
ki bhookh kam lage
Deepak: mera kal cheenu se solid waala discussion hua.. actually mein kal i was a part of the metting where i have to break the bad news to few of the team members about downsizing of the team main bhi wohi bol raha tha jo aap bol rahey ho bada hi idiotic concept hota hai.. downsizing.. abey jab woh insaan upna din ghar parivaar sab chodd ke aapke liye late nights tak kaam karta hai taaki aap profits bana sako.. tab aapko woh yaad nahin aata.. jaise hi turant musibat aayi saala sab se pehle usko nikal phenko.. might sound like leftist.. but if our top management cuts 5% on their salary and their dinners with their travel, your entire bottom line can be kept happy and i dont think it should matter to them 5% of 4 lakhs is a mere 20k.. and instead of 20 days of travels if you do 15 days and be more productive then it would actually save 1000 jobs in your company but no body bothers to do that
Vaibhav: :) mujhe jaldi hi kuch karna padega. this world needs me ;)
Deepak: na.. i dont think this world needs me in corporate dynastys rather it needs me as a minister for industries :)
Vaibhav: jo bhi ho jahan bhi, i need to do something in short :P
Deepak: and i do agree that this world needs me.. but i dont want to start something in which only top management earns.. i want the entire chain to make money while its hay and the entire chain to take a cut while its gloom
no no.. dont do anything in short.. it doesnt look good... atleast wear trousers :)
Vaibhav: liberalization ka zamana hai ;) shorts bhi chalenge
kuch karl marx type bana rahe ho kya
Deepak: hmm.. lekin mera thought to kaafi different hai yaar.. mera aim saare stake holders ke liye wealth banana hai.. naaki sirf owners ke liye.. i believe in efficiency and productivity and hence rewarding at the right time..and i truly believe employees are your best stock options..happy employees mean very happy organisation..a super reason why no one leave Tata for a jindal or mittal..and same is applicable for mittal as well
Vaibhav: wo bolte sab hai but sirf on paper :(
Deepak: i know yaar.. but i have fought for my boys in INI and was named a leftist.. :)
Vaibhav: :)ye duniya bahut selfish hai
Deepak: hmm.. main bhi hun.. but i have my limits which i found out are very very low then most people..i also want luxuries.. i also want amenities.. but then there is a limit.. but i found out that there are many in this world who have no limits..
Vaibhav: :) jo bhi bolo thats the way this world goes
Deepak: i know.. but then there is JRD tata, and ratan tata.. there is aditya birla there are also from the same world these people couldve been atleast 20 times richer had they thought of making money for themselves.. thats why you see loyalties of 20 yrs to them.. and EOD thats what matters..
Vaibhav: wo yaar apna apna nazariya hai
Deepak: when u walk out.. if people come to you and say.. boss its coz of you that i could get my kids best of education, marriage of my daughters and run my house.. thats the best appreciation
Vaibhav: haan but for some others think ki theek hai yaha mai kamau fir kisi koney me jaake kuch donate kar du
Deepak: wohi to keh raha hun yaar.. kitna kamoge.. main samjhta hun till the time you earn 1 lakh per month money is important.. after that.. its greed..
Vaibhav: yaar sabki limit alag hai apke liye 1 lakh hai kisi k liye it might b 1 crore
Deepak: tabhi to bol raha hun i am becoming a leftist.. :) communist..:)
Vaibhav: :)
Deepak: who believes in upper cap on earnings.. and bringing everyone to same cadre.. however i am slightly different also.. i only support people who are productive.. i wont believe in carrying non performers for no reason
Vaibhav: according to me it shud not b extreme left nor right
Deepak: matlab saala your bottom line earns for you and you fire them give me minimum benefits and kick their asses whenever you feel like
not acceptable
Vaibhav: thats what wo to am also saying is not the way u do business at least the organization shud b treated as family its not ki aaj meri salary cut huyi i will fire my son ki u r a overhead now
Deepak: true...
Vaibhav: waise an interesting discussion i was thinking of some gud topic to start blog
Deepak: i am posting it on my blog :)
Vaibhav: now i have one :p
cheater
Deepak: Chuck it man..
i wrote it first :) waise i am posting this whole dialogue
Vaibhav: nahi mere ideas nahi chura sakte aap
Deepak: main to original mein daalunga churane ka to question hi nahin hai
Vaibhav: haan mujhe credit dete ho to theek hai :p
Deepak: Thodi der mein dekhna
Thanks..
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Vaibhav: i think saala business me apne jaise leaders ki kami hai ;)
they dont have any idea but cutting their arms
Deepak: hmm.. but bhai jab tak hum leaders banege bahut time nikal gaya hoga..
Vaibhav: gareebi aati hai to kya saala hum hath paon kaat lete hai
ki bhookh kam lage
Deepak: mera kal cheenu se solid waala discussion hua.. actually mein kal i was a part of the metting where i have to break the bad news to few of the team members about downsizing of the team main bhi wohi bol raha tha jo aap bol rahey ho bada hi idiotic concept hota hai.. downsizing.. abey jab woh insaan upna din ghar parivaar sab chodd ke aapke liye late nights tak kaam karta hai taaki aap profits bana sako.. tab aapko woh yaad nahin aata.. jaise hi turant musibat aayi saala sab se pehle usko nikal phenko.. might sound like leftist.. but if our top management cuts 5% on their salary and their dinners with their travel, your entire bottom line can be kept happy and i dont think it should matter to them 5% of 4 lakhs is a mere 20k.. and instead of 20 days of travels if you do 15 days and be more productive then it would actually save 1000 jobs in your company but no body bothers to do that
Vaibhav: :) mujhe jaldi hi kuch karna padega. this world needs me ;)
Deepak: na.. i dont think this world needs me in corporate dynastys rather it needs me as a minister for industries :)
Vaibhav: jo bhi ho jahan bhi, i need to do something in short :P
Deepak: and i do agree that this world needs me.. but i dont want to start something in which only top management earns.. i want the entire chain to make money while its hay and the entire chain to take a cut while its gloom
no no.. dont do anything in short.. it doesnt look good... atleast wear trousers :)
Vaibhav: liberalization ka zamana hai ;) shorts bhi chalenge
kuch karl marx type bana rahe ho kya
Deepak: hmm.. lekin mera thought to kaafi different hai yaar.. mera aim saare stake holders ke liye wealth banana hai.. naaki sirf owners ke liye.. i believe in efficiency and productivity and hence rewarding at the right time..and i truly believe employees are your best stock options..happy employees mean very happy organisation..a super reason why no one leave Tata for a jindal or mittal..and same is applicable for mittal as well
Vaibhav: wo bolte sab hai but sirf on paper :(
Deepak: i know yaar.. but i have fought for my boys in INI and was named a leftist.. :)
Vaibhav: :)ye duniya bahut selfish hai
Deepak: hmm.. main bhi hun.. but i have my limits which i found out are very very low then most people..i also want luxuries.. i also want amenities.. but then there is a limit.. but i found out that there are many in this world who have no limits..
Vaibhav: :) jo bhi bolo thats the way this world goes
Deepak: i know.. but then there is JRD tata, and ratan tata.. there is aditya birla there are also from the same world these people couldve been atleast 20 times richer had they thought of making money for themselves.. thats why you see loyalties of 20 yrs to them.. and EOD thats what matters..
Vaibhav: wo yaar apna apna nazariya hai
Deepak: when u walk out.. if people come to you and say.. boss its coz of you that i could get my kids best of education, marriage of my daughters and run my house.. thats the best appreciation
Vaibhav: haan but for some others think ki theek hai yaha mai kamau fir kisi koney me jaake kuch donate kar du
Deepak: wohi to keh raha hun yaar.. kitna kamoge.. main samjhta hun till the time you earn 1 lakh per month money is important.. after that.. its greed..
Vaibhav: yaar sabki limit alag hai apke liye 1 lakh hai kisi k liye it might b 1 crore
Deepak: tabhi to bol raha hun i am becoming a leftist.. :) communist..:)
Vaibhav: :)
Deepak: who believes in upper cap on earnings.. and bringing everyone to same cadre.. however i am slightly different also.. i only support people who are productive.. i wont believe in carrying non performers for no reason
Vaibhav: according to me it shud not b extreme left nor right
Deepak: matlab saala your bottom line earns for you and you fire them give me minimum benefits and kick their asses whenever you feel like
not acceptable
Vaibhav: thats what wo to am also saying is not the way u do business at least the organization shud b treated as family its not ki aaj meri salary cut huyi i will fire my son ki u r a overhead now
Deepak: true...
Vaibhav: waise an interesting discussion i was thinking of some gud topic to start blog
Deepak: i am posting it on my blog :)
Vaibhav: now i have one :p
cheater
Deepak: Chuck it man..
i wrote it first :) waise i am posting this whole dialogue
Vaibhav: nahi mere ideas nahi chura sakte aap
Deepak: main to original mein daalunga churane ka to question hi nahin hai
Vaibhav: haan mujhe credit dete ho to theek hai :p
Deepak: Thodi der mein dekhna
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Communist,
cost cutting,
downsizing,
JRD,
Leaders,
Ratan Tata
17th April 2009
You must be wondering as to what is so special about this date!! that I am writing a blog on it, Yes, the day was a Friday and for most people in the world it was a regular office day with plannings of a good weekend in their minds. However, for us it was one of the most important day of life. The day was special as it was on the very same day, last year, we had tied the nuptial knot and had taken vows to be with each other for seven lives, indeed if God permits we would like to be.. Amen!!. Yes, you guessed it correct; we got married on this day in the year 2008.
Most people around us wished us and bestowed us with blessings and gifts. We were forced to go back into the memories of the day and the happenings around it. Let’s not think of all that happened along with the day, rather, I would like to share our journey in the last one year, being Man and wife :)
So, how was this one year? I would like the journey to be more of a question and answer rather being one boring essay story where it would be all happy as expected. :)
Here we go: -
What is the "catalyst" in our chemistry?
Choose anyone you like
- Me being un-organized and she being organized to the core
- Me being lazy and she being hyperactive
- Me being cricket lover and she being an ardent non-cricket person
- Me being a big zero in household cores and she being a super performer!!
What has she changed in me?
- I am surprised by the way she has made me more patient and stable in life. I have lost atleat 75% (if not more) of my impulsive behavior
- I have started dressing up more in reds, oranges, maroons rather then whites, blues and grays.
- I have registered a remarkable 100% on time arrival in office and have definitely proved more productive.
- Lots to write about... :) next question
What was the best thing we did?
- We went to goa, twice in the year, first for more of a know-goa-types trip, but the second one was absolute fun. Spent some real quality time with each other, roamed like best buddies and had loads and loads of fun.
What was the worst thing we did?
- Hmmm... now that’s really interesting, the worst thing we did/do was/is fight.
Any important events in our life in the last one year?
- Several, mostly they were negative, hence not writing them in here..
Unlike most marriages, ours was full of hiccups, rather hiccup is an understatement. Though we were neither the designers nor the guilty of all that happened but since we were at the helm of affairs somehow we couldn’t keep ourselves away from getting affected. It has taken one full year to come to terms with whatever happened. But now that we have come a long way ahead, we would like to keep marching hand in hand towards the dream that we both saw together. Dream of a happy, healthy family, a dream where we are never short of blessings from the elders, a dream where there is immense love and trust, a dream where both of us complement each other with 100% of our abilities and make the bond grow to unprecedented heights.
For all this and more, we need your blessings. We know, we have a long path to walk and we're sure it won't be easy, it won't be tender, and hence, we would not like to fall short of blessings.
Most people around us wished us and bestowed us with blessings and gifts. We were forced to go back into the memories of the day and the happenings around it. Let’s not think of all that happened along with the day, rather, I would like to share our journey in the last one year, being Man and wife :)
So, how was this one year? I would like the journey to be more of a question and answer rather being one boring essay story where it would be all happy as expected. :)
Here we go: -
What is the "catalyst" in our chemistry?
Choose anyone you like
- Me being un-organized and she being organized to the core
- Me being lazy and she being hyperactive
- Me being cricket lover and she being an ardent non-cricket person
- Me being a big zero in household cores and she being a super performer!!
What has she changed in me?
- I am surprised by the way she has made me more patient and stable in life. I have lost atleat 75% (if not more) of my impulsive behavior
- I have started dressing up more in reds, oranges, maroons rather then whites, blues and grays.
- I have registered a remarkable 100% on time arrival in office and have definitely proved more productive.
- Lots to write about... :) next question
What was the best thing we did?
- We went to goa, twice in the year, first for more of a know-goa-types trip, but the second one was absolute fun. Spent some real quality time with each other, roamed like best buddies and had loads and loads of fun.
What was the worst thing we did?
- Hmmm... now that’s really interesting, the worst thing we did/do was/is fight.
Any important events in our life in the last one year?
- Several, mostly they were negative, hence not writing them in here..
Unlike most marriages, ours was full of hiccups, rather hiccup is an understatement. Though we were neither the designers nor the guilty of all that happened but since we were at the helm of affairs somehow we couldn’t keep ourselves away from getting affected. It has taken one full year to come to terms with whatever happened. But now that we have come a long way ahead, we would like to keep marching hand in hand towards the dream that we both saw together. Dream of a happy, healthy family, a dream where we are never short of blessings from the elders, a dream where there is immense love and trust, a dream where both of us complement each other with 100% of our abilities and make the bond grow to unprecedented heights.
For all this and more, we need your blessings. We know, we have a long path to walk and we're sure it won't be easy, it won't be tender, and hence, we would not like to fall short of blessings.
Holi...
Holi aayi re kanhai rang barse
suna de zara baansuri..
Suna yeh geet humne jab,
yaad aayi ghar ki tab
woh jamana bhi tha ek
jab hotey they yaar anek,
aaj hai ghar, gaadi, aur sabhi aish-o-araam
lekin kahan woh khanakti hui aawaaz,
woh shor-sharaba, woh apnapan,
lakh mana karne par bhi woh kisi ka humen rang lagana
woh chilate hue hamara unke peeche bhagna,
woh saaf mann se ek dusre ko rangna,
Woh maa ke lakh mana karne par bhi safeed kapde pehanna
kaise kaise fitur hote they,
ek din pehle poori shaam agle din ke karikram bante they
woh besan ki chukki woh gujiya
woh maa ki rasoi aur uski khushbu,
holi ke din ka woh mahaul
kahin se geet-sangeet
kahin se chilla-chot
aur ab...
ab hai charon taraf sannata
bas thodi bahut khusur fusur
"22 degree ka woh controlled" mahaul
bas keyboard ki khat-khat aur phone ki ring
saaf suthra office aur saaf suthre hum
lagta hai jaise ki woh koi aur hi tha
jo chaad kar deewaron pe dauda karta tha
shayad woh main nahin,
woh shayad koi aur hi tha
jo nange pair kadi doop mein
upne mitron ko rang lagane ko peeche bhagta tha
aur ab bas muskurate hue haath milata hai
zindagi badi ajeeb hai,
jab yeh nahin tha, jo hai,
to sochte they,
kya hoga jab hamari jeb mein rupaiye honge
hum zindagi ko aise jiyenge waise jiyenge
aur jab ki aaj hai,
to bachpan chahiye..
kahin main zyada to nahin maang raha…
suna de zara baansuri..
Suna yeh geet humne jab,
yaad aayi ghar ki tab
woh jamana bhi tha ek
jab hotey they yaar anek,
aaj hai ghar, gaadi, aur sabhi aish-o-araam
lekin kahan woh khanakti hui aawaaz,
woh shor-sharaba, woh apnapan,
lakh mana karne par bhi woh kisi ka humen rang lagana
woh chilate hue hamara unke peeche bhagna,
woh saaf mann se ek dusre ko rangna,
Woh maa ke lakh mana karne par bhi safeed kapde pehanna
kaise kaise fitur hote they,
ek din pehle poori shaam agle din ke karikram bante they
woh besan ki chukki woh gujiya
woh maa ki rasoi aur uski khushbu,
holi ke din ka woh mahaul
kahin se geet-sangeet
kahin se chilla-chot
aur ab...
ab hai charon taraf sannata
bas thodi bahut khusur fusur
"22 degree ka woh controlled" mahaul
bas keyboard ki khat-khat aur phone ki ring
saaf suthra office aur saaf suthre hum
lagta hai jaise ki woh koi aur hi tha
jo chaad kar deewaron pe dauda karta tha
shayad woh main nahin,
woh shayad koi aur hi tha
jo nange pair kadi doop mein
upne mitron ko rang lagane ko peeche bhagta tha
aur ab bas muskurate hue haath milata hai
zindagi badi ajeeb hai,
jab yeh nahin tha, jo hai,
to sochte they,
kya hoga jab hamari jeb mein rupaiye honge
hum zindagi ko aise jiyenge waise jiyenge
aur jab ki aaj hai,
to bachpan chahiye..
kahin main zyada to nahin maang raha…
Dad’s promotion
Today, 2-March, 2009 couldn’t have been better. One man’s struggle finally got answered. And truly in a way that they should’ve been. All his prayers, his hard work and his dedication got heard. Today he got the most coveted designation in my city. The one that he, some times patiently, some times eagerly and some times desperately wanted. The one designation that he dreamt of for past one and a half years, the one that he saw coming to him and then just when he thought he had it, he lost it. The one that eluded him of his most awaited celebrations. Yes, my dad is finally The S.E. of P.H.E.D, kota. Yes, now he would be the supreme of the city that he has given 30 yrs of his life. Congratulations!!
Let me take you through a journey of this one man who not only has risen through the worst of patches in life, but has emerged stronger every single time he was pushed to wall. Let me introduce to you to my father, my idol and most certainly the best Man that I have ever come across in life.
I would not take you through the ones that you could guess or whatever is a fact. This would exclusively be my journey through his life. My journey, as I saw him fight through to glory.
My earliest memories are of the time when we moved in to Kota because of Mom’s job. We stayed at place called Vallabh bari, a place which holds its own sweet importance in my life. I do not remember too many things from there except that meeting him used to be quiet a task. He started getting busier from the time he arrived in Kota. He probably found the best incubator in the form of a city to grow his tactical skills and shoot up in sky.
Before we could take and account of what’s happening, we moved into PHED colony and the house no KRW 22. Life was moving too fast and we were growing up amidst all the comforts, and he continued to become busy by the day.
Some excerpts of his talks on the phone that most certainly have left huge impact on us: -
1)Pressure cum hai, valve ki do chudi khol do aur report karo. (It worked every single time-this meant that he knew what language the labor understands and how he can translate his engineering into their language-brilliant!!)
2)Gaadi main chalaunga, tu thaka hua hai, neend aa sakti hai (This happened on one of his sites where I happened to be with him. It was ghat section and he was heading a project which no body else could complete, needless to mention he completed it ahead of schedule, this statement was made to his full time driver, this shows his leadership skills and caring for his sub-ordinates)
3)Tum log mujhe roz good morning karke hi school jaoge (there was time when he used to return by 2am and we used to go to school by 6, hence one full month went by without we being able to speak with him, it was then that he devised this. This ensured that even when he is fast asleep we would share a smile with him-Indeed a loving father).
4)Beta, rishtey todna bahut asaan hota hai, nibhana bada mushkil, lekin ghar bhara ho to hi accha lagta hai (this was when family was going under tremendous turmoil, he stood strong, kept everything to himself, did not let anything fall and result is that the house still sees 30-40 people every time he wants-What a family man :-) ).
5)Woh mere pita hain, aur unke liye main kuch bhi kar sakta hun, kuch bhi. (This happened when the question were asked about his unconditional love for my grandpa-Given a chance Dad, I would like to make this statement too :-) ).
The whole life is full of these; his way of handling things is not only brilliant but learning for everyone around him. He doesn’t like favoring people, he is toughest one to be on your side, but trust me if he is, then there is nothing that can stop you from winning in life.
Coming to his recent promotion, I was surprised when I heard people talk; they wanted him to be at the chair. This surprises me, how much a person can be loved and respected at his work place. How much dedicated can a person be, how he can manage all ends.
It’s this era of IT that we are talking about work life balance, we talk about we being extremely busy, trust me, I could never use this statement in front of him. He was busy like hell, he was running all over the place, yet some how he never missed those weekend chaats with us, those weekend picnics, the day outings, the trips to mamaji’s place, the trips to baran, and those trips to jaipur, he missed nothing. He managed it all and managed them all brilliantly. Am sure, his father is proud of him being his son, his siblings are proud of they having such an elder brother, we are most definitely proud of him being our father.
Not that he only led everything to perfection; he also had his bad time, but then who doesn’t go through the lean patch. It’s actually what you do when you are pushed to the wall that determines how strong you are, and I am sure each one of us who has known him can tell you, that he is most certainly one of the strongest personalities that one would come across.
Oh God! I am getting confused, there is so much more to share and mind just isn’t stopping to think. So I stop in here about the peripherals and rather concentrate around the subject.
There is something that I would like him to read
Daddy,
While you always kept your troubles to yourself, while you only wanted us to have the best in life, while you worked hard so that we get best of our education. I want to tell you that I remember everything, I remember the day when I wanted to buy a badminton racquet and I picked up one which was the best, you didn’t thought for a while, you bought it for me. The day when I picked up best shoes for football, you got that for me too. And I most certainly remember the day at Supriya garments when I bought a dress more than you had in your pocket, you bought that for me without letting anyone know your position.
Daddy, even though I have become busy in life, even though I do not talk to you every day, and even though I am not able to spend time with you, I want to tell you that I love you and you have no idea how happy I am on this achievement of yours.
I just wish I am able to achieve what you have achieved, I want to have that masala thumbs up with you after the final results while you scold me in your style , I want to sit with you on that chair at mohan chaat center eating away those aaloo-tikki, I want to eat that ice cream at khalsas, I want live all that yet again.
But first, I want to sit with you in that white ambassador and bask in glory of being the son of most loved and respected man. I want to get in the car and feel good about myself.
Oh God!! I just can’t wait to be at Kota.
Once again, congratulations papa, may God bless you and may you achieve all that you have always dreamt off.
On behalf of munnu and Nidhi, I wanted to tell you, given a choice we would like to be with you at this hour of celebrations. May God hear us and may he bring us all together at a place which is not separated by such huge distances.
Love you.
Tunnu
Let me take you through a journey of this one man who not only has risen through the worst of patches in life, but has emerged stronger every single time he was pushed to wall. Let me introduce to you to my father, my idol and most certainly the best Man that I have ever come across in life.
I would not take you through the ones that you could guess or whatever is a fact. This would exclusively be my journey through his life. My journey, as I saw him fight through to glory.
My earliest memories are of the time when we moved in to Kota because of Mom’s job. We stayed at place called Vallabh bari, a place which holds its own sweet importance in my life. I do not remember too many things from there except that meeting him used to be quiet a task. He started getting busier from the time he arrived in Kota. He probably found the best incubator in the form of a city to grow his tactical skills and shoot up in sky.
Before we could take and account of what’s happening, we moved into PHED colony and the house no KRW 22. Life was moving too fast and we were growing up amidst all the comforts, and he continued to become busy by the day.
Some excerpts of his talks on the phone that most certainly have left huge impact on us: -
1)Pressure cum hai, valve ki do chudi khol do aur report karo. (It worked every single time-this meant that he knew what language the labor understands and how he can translate his engineering into their language-brilliant!!)
2)Gaadi main chalaunga, tu thaka hua hai, neend aa sakti hai (This happened on one of his sites where I happened to be with him. It was ghat section and he was heading a project which no body else could complete, needless to mention he completed it ahead of schedule, this statement was made to his full time driver, this shows his leadership skills and caring for his sub-ordinates)
3)Tum log mujhe roz good morning karke hi school jaoge (there was time when he used to return by 2am and we used to go to school by 6, hence one full month went by without we being able to speak with him, it was then that he devised this. This ensured that even when he is fast asleep we would share a smile with him-Indeed a loving father).
4)Beta, rishtey todna bahut asaan hota hai, nibhana bada mushkil, lekin ghar bhara ho to hi accha lagta hai (this was when family was going under tremendous turmoil, he stood strong, kept everything to himself, did not let anything fall and result is that the house still sees 30-40 people every time he wants-What a family man :-) ).
5)Woh mere pita hain, aur unke liye main kuch bhi kar sakta hun, kuch bhi. (This happened when the question were asked about his unconditional love for my grandpa-Given a chance Dad, I would like to make this statement too :-) ).
The whole life is full of these; his way of handling things is not only brilliant but learning for everyone around him. He doesn’t like favoring people, he is toughest one to be on your side, but trust me if he is, then there is nothing that can stop you from winning in life.
Coming to his recent promotion, I was surprised when I heard people talk; they wanted him to be at the chair. This surprises me, how much a person can be loved and respected at his work place. How much dedicated can a person be, how he can manage all ends.
It’s this era of IT that we are talking about work life balance, we talk about we being extremely busy, trust me, I could never use this statement in front of him. He was busy like hell, he was running all over the place, yet some how he never missed those weekend chaats with us, those weekend picnics, the day outings, the trips to mamaji’s place, the trips to baran, and those trips to jaipur, he missed nothing. He managed it all and managed them all brilliantly. Am sure, his father is proud of him being his son, his siblings are proud of they having such an elder brother, we are most definitely proud of him being our father.
Not that he only led everything to perfection; he also had his bad time, but then who doesn’t go through the lean patch. It’s actually what you do when you are pushed to the wall that determines how strong you are, and I am sure each one of us who has known him can tell you, that he is most certainly one of the strongest personalities that one would come across.
Oh God! I am getting confused, there is so much more to share and mind just isn’t stopping to think. So I stop in here about the peripherals and rather concentrate around the subject.
There is something that I would like him to read
Daddy,
While you always kept your troubles to yourself, while you only wanted us to have the best in life, while you worked hard so that we get best of our education. I want to tell you that I remember everything, I remember the day when I wanted to buy a badminton racquet and I picked up one which was the best, you didn’t thought for a while, you bought it for me. The day when I picked up best shoes for football, you got that for me too. And I most certainly remember the day at Supriya garments when I bought a dress more than you had in your pocket, you bought that for me without letting anyone know your position.
Daddy, even though I have become busy in life, even though I do not talk to you every day, and even though I am not able to spend time with you, I want to tell you that I love you and you have no idea how happy I am on this achievement of yours.
I just wish I am able to achieve what you have achieved, I want to have that masala thumbs up with you after the final results while you scold me in your style , I want to sit with you on that chair at mohan chaat center eating away those aaloo-tikki, I want to eat that ice cream at khalsas, I want live all that yet again.
But first, I want to sit with you in that white ambassador and bask in glory of being the son of most loved and respected man. I want to get in the car and feel good about myself.
Oh God!! I just can’t wait to be at Kota.
Once again, congratulations papa, may God bless you and may you achieve all that you have always dreamt off.
On behalf of munnu and Nidhi, I wanted to tell you, given a choice we would like to be with you at this hour of celebrations. May God hear us and may he bring us all together at a place which is not separated by such huge distances.
Love you.
Tunnu
2008 -> 2009
A round up of 2008, the year gone by had its own impact on me and my personality. The situations that i have been made to go have definitely made me learn some stuff.
A recap
* what was your biggest achievement of the year?
Getting married
* what was the best thing you bought?
Nail polish for Nidhi
* One word/phrase that you used maximum number of times
I Love you (To nidhi) :-)
* what did you get really excited/enthu about?
finally able to get Nidhi in life
* Best day of your life
17th April: - i got married on this day.
* where did most of your money go?
Travel
* what did you wanted and did not get?
Peace of mind
* what did you wanted and get?
Solidarity in personal life (yes i got it on the last day of 2008)
* what one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Peace in family
* what/who kept you sane?
Religious/spiritual songs, videos
* which political issue stirred you the most?
Nuclear deal
* which social issue stirred you the most?
Attacks on Churches
* quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
"I'll survive, I will survive!" by Gloria Gaynor
* what did you miss?
My friends
* what was your favorite film of this year?
Rock on!!
* what was the best book you read?
Hitchhiker's guide to galaxy
* Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?
yes i do, not worth mentioning in here.
* what was your biggest failure?
not able to get families along
* whose behavior made you depressed?
Not worth mentioning here
* what did you do in 2008 that you’d never done before?
Went on leisure/holiday trips
* did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
I don't remember what was my resolution in 2008 but definitely will make one and try and live up to it .
* what places did you visit?
Waynard, Goa, Pondicherry, Coorg.
* One thing that you want to do differently in 2009
Become slightly more patient
* One thing that you wish you could change
Few people in my close Relationships
* One thing that you wish had never happened
Not worth mentioning in here
* One thing/event/person that had significant impact on your personality
Thing: - Badminton racket (I started playing again after a break of 6 years)
Event: - India winning over australia (win of determination over arrogance)
Person: - My Dad(his experience helped me every single time i needed it)
A lot happened with me and people around me, life was thrown off the hook a couple of times, and had some real great moments of happiness, from joy unbound to sorrows unprecedented- saw it all, saw how things go bad for no good reason to how a human spirit can get things back.
Found one great word: - "Determination" and the good that it can do.
Found one great phrase: - "Life is all that you make and God gives"
Found one biggest problem: - Ego
Happy new year 2009!!
A recap
* what was your biggest achievement of the year?
Getting married
* what was the best thing you bought?
Nail polish for Nidhi
* One word/phrase that you used maximum number of times
I Love you (To nidhi) :-)
* what did you get really excited/enthu about?
finally able to get Nidhi in life
* Best day of your life
17th April: - i got married on this day.
* where did most of your money go?
Travel
* what did you wanted and did not get?
Peace of mind
* what did you wanted and get?
Solidarity in personal life (yes i got it on the last day of 2008)
* what one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Peace in family
* what/who kept you sane?
Religious/spiritual songs, videos
* which political issue stirred you the most?
Nuclear deal
* which social issue stirred you the most?
Attacks on Churches
* quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
"I'll survive, I will survive!" by Gloria Gaynor
* what did you miss?
My friends
* what was your favorite film of this year?
Rock on!!
* what was the best book you read?
Hitchhiker's guide to galaxy
* Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?
yes i do, not worth mentioning in here.
* what was your biggest failure?
not able to get families along
* whose behavior made you depressed?
Not worth mentioning here
* what did you do in 2008 that you’d never done before?
Went on leisure/holiday trips
* did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
I don't remember what was my resolution in 2008 but definitely will make one and try and live up to it .
* what places did you visit?
Waynard, Goa, Pondicherry, Coorg.
* One thing that you want to do differently in 2009
Become slightly more patient
* One thing that you wish you could change
Few people in my close Relationships
* One thing that you wish had never happened
Not worth mentioning in here
* One thing/event/person that had significant impact on your personality
Thing: - Badminton racket (I started playing again after a break of 6 years)
Event: - India winning over australia (win of determination over arrogance)
Person: - My Dad(his experience helped me every single time i needed it)
A lot happened with me and people around me, life was thrown off the hook a couple of times, and had some real great moments of happiness, from joy unbound to sorrows unprecedented- saw it all, saw how things go bad for no good reason to how a human spirit can get things back.
Found one great word: - "Determination" and the good that it can do.
Found one great phrase: - "Life is all that you make and God gives"
Found one biggest problem: - Ego
Happy new year 2009!!
Labels:
Badminton,
Coorg,
Goa,
Hitchhiker's guide to galaxy,
Human ego,
Pondicherry,
Rock on,
Waynard
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