Written by me, presented to the gathering by my younger brother Prasoon
Good Afternoon Respected Principal sir, vice principal sir and distinguished members of the staff. It’s a very special day today, special for you as you all are celebrating contributions of one of your colleague towards an outstanding career, and a celebration for us, as today my Mother will return home to spend her entire time with us. Just a mention in here, Mummy, while papa had been the torch bearer of our lives and you have been the soul, like wise this has been written by Deepak and Read by Prasoon. Together we are and together we shall be, no physical distance can ever separate the divine connection that we have with you and papa.
Coming back to this over whelming day, I want to tell you all that this oration is particularly special for us, as it is extending our thankfulness to someone as elite as my mother. I am sure all of you are aware of her achievements in life and therefore it would be a reiteration of them. However, it’s so much pleasure to talk about things like these that I will not resist myself. My mother happens to belong to a category of scholars, she has won many awards including a rare feat of 3 gold medals during her college days and yet I saw her connecting to my very less educated grandmother in the best way. This just shows the spectrum that she has, that she could adjust to the situation presented before her. She can switch between Abhigyaan Shakuntalam in Sanskrit to talking in absolute and pure hadoti in no time, needless to mention, she speaks equally good Marwari too and off-late has been picking up on a little Tamil . What an outstanding personality, when most people of her age are busy drawing curtains on their lives, she still manages to pick up new things and master them. According to what I know of her, I think she believes, preaches and practices the fundamental that, Education imparts wisdom, Education imparts the sense of being humble and education imparts a sense of self confidence.
I guess I have spoken enough about the regular things, now I would want you all to spend next few minutes listening to something which is very personal to us. Something which will show you the other side of my mother and her life. Mother’s in this world are believed to be associated with adjectives like affection, love, care, etc. Amongst these adjectives, my mother happens to add a couple more. Let me explain. It’s a world of very tough competition, where nothing but the best succeeds. I believe that to be born as best is God’s mercy, but to become one amongst good is your Mother’s dedication on you. My Mother always stood strong with us and ensured that we don’t undermine our capabilities. It was ok to fail but not ok, not to try. She would always tell us, if you fall, I will hold you, go ahead. To me this is single most important reason that we are doing well in our life.
Let’s talk about something more, Confidence that she had in us. She always had the confidence that we would reach new heights in our life; she has always been a pillar of strength behind us. She not only helped us but often gave us courage to let us explore new world. She never stopped us from becoming adventurous, never stopped us from doing what we wanted to do. She always kept saying, Keep moving, keep walking, keep fighting, and keep achieving, don’t let your hurdles come in your way. God will bless you one day. Indeed, it’s her belief and my Dad’s contribution that we, could scale up to this level and lead a normal life. While my daddy played a significant role in being the guiding star, my mother was the energy behind it all.
Today, as I talk to you all, I can say without a doubt, that whatever we could achieve is due to you mummy. There is something more that I wanted to share; in today’s world there are talks about letting your kids decide what they want, everyone talks about it and is considered modern, but let me tell you ladies and gentlemen, my mother had this vision 20 yrs ago. I captained my college cricket team for two consecutive years and played 3 different sports at University level. Prasoon can play 7 different musical instruments and is a canary of our family. This is due to her persuasion for us to take up things of our choices. Let me take this opportunity and tell you mummy that even though you never took credit for our achievements, your kids have always Thanked God for giving us a mother like you.
As I conclude, I would with a humble mind, and bowed head, like to tell you all that a Father plays an important role in life of his kids, he is the guiding star of one’s life, he makes the way to walk, his contribution towards kid’s life is iconic, but it’s the mother, who gives strength to her kid’s legs to empower them to walk on that path. My mother is a powerful lady, she could’ve achieved bigger heights, but she instead gave her entire life to bless her kids.
My mother has been a phenomenal mother, as she has played and is playing a role of a daughter, a wife and a mother with utmost perfection. I am sure, her father, her husband and her kids all are absolutely proud of her.
Maa, today we bow our heads to your outstanding life and career where you tried your best to deliver what was apt for that time. Without bowing down to pressure or tactics, you always stood strong. You have told us the value of commitment, dedication and knowledge. You have made us learn an important point, “it’s ok to fail but not ok not to try”, and the results are for us to see.
I am awake as this ceremony is happening at your place and just wished I could be there, standing amongst all and ready to take you home. But I think I will lose this to Prasoon, for he is a lucky boy, he always has been the charm of family and the reason for happiness. I think it’s ok to lose to him today for I am eagerly waiting for the day when you would arrive at USA to be with me
I think I have spoken enough, I wish I could just go on and on, but I think, I will stop in here.
Mummy, I love you and will continue to love you eternally. You are the best
Thank you all once again for hearing me patiently and giving me a chance to deliver this.
Relationships
I just went through an article on arrange marriages. It looks to me that the whole world is debating a lot about relationships these days making it the most "in thing". While everyone seems to be having their own perspective, I guess, it’s what you, as a person, believe in, matters the most. However, I also feel that many people who claim to be BTDT (been there done that) have actually very little idea of what it is.
I have been blessed with lot of relatives, friends, relationships, and a marriage that neither is an arranged nor can be categorized under love marriage. I think i too can write down my perspective on relationships. It’s actually quiet an interesting thing how the logics, or ill-logics, work every time when it’s the case of relationships.
Disclaimer: - I am an Indian and so is my perspective. I do not understand most of the things of the west, and hence would not be writing anything about it.
Let me begin with your relationship with parents. Most kids while growing up land in conflict with their parents. While it’s easy to term it arrogance of the kid and over protective behavior of parents, i believe there is actually more to it. Parents naturally have had larger share of life and also have their opinions on everything that has/is/will happen. While it’s almost impossible to live in the same world as your parents, I believe circumstances that they have seen or what you would see, hold striking similarity. The characters change, gadgets are different, locations are different, but if you sit back and think, the gist/core might still be the same as what your parents had gone through. I believe it’s actually wrong from parents to enthuse a solution as is onto their kid's life, but, it’s also wrong on kid’s part to simply write their parents off by stating that they don’t understand your situation. Win-win situation would be when the growing generation actually leverages ideas (not words or surroundings) from older generations and get out of a predicament. I do this all the time, sometime it works, sometime it doesn’t, but I guess at-least I get a whole new perspective about the situation. My source is my dad. His favorite line is, "go and make new mistakes, don’t repeat what I have done". Guess, in this, it’s important not to have any communication gap between you and elder generation. Again, both have to work towards it; they have to soften their stand while you have to be sensible enough to talk to them.
Second is relationship with your friends. These days I am increasingly witnessing a paradigm shift towards minimizing the differences between, friends, acquaintances and people who you simply have met once. Everyone is broadly getting categorized into one category as "Friends". I believe here is where the problem is, for you don’t want anyone and everyone to come close in life and know you as you are. You need to have someone who knows you inside out and who is not your love interest. I happen to be blessed with one such person in life. Vaibhav, met me on a railway station about 14 yrs back. From that day, we share a very special relationship. We are super buddies, yet we never give out “gyan” on what other one is doing, we never tell what each other should be doing, we are always for each other in thick and thin but without any form of "gyan". Each one of us enjoys his personal space while still connected deep inside. I don’t think I have ever told what Vaibhav should be doing in a particular situation nor has he done that. Even though we are two very different personalities we have been able to maintain the eagerness to meet the other, to be able to share sorrows, absolute madness and something’s very personal with ease. I guess, the gist lies in the fact that we don’t breach the line where personal life begins. But, I have vaibhav whom I call my friend. I have a few other close friends and with each one, I share the same method of keeping a line very well drawn. I would easily have 4-5 4am friends but the number is very less compared to a lot of other that I know. All others are good to have, nice to be with and so, I generally get along with people well, have lot of fun in the parties and go out. I like it that way, guess, whatever be the relationship, it’s absolutely necessary to have your personal space.
Third and most important relationship that I have is with my wife Nidhi. Ours was torrential, horrifying and mind-blowing wedding. I was hoping the guns would be loaded and firing would be witnessed, but nothing of the sorts happened and till date I feel very lucky to have been married on that day without any further drama. Now, let me relate back to what made me write this piece. I was reading this article which says "The problem with arrange marriage". I guess it’s just amazing how people write off something that has worked over centuries in my country and continues to work amidst all nonsense’s. I believe arrange marriages are difficult, but there is no guarantee that if it’s a love marriage it would work!! And that it will not have any problems. See, problems are not because of what kind of marriage you had, rather, it’s more to do with what kind of a personality you are. I can tell you, I knew Nidhi before marriage and we had good time to know each other. It was a conscious decision that we wanted to get married to each other. But when we got married, it was almost as if all hell broke loose. There were so many differences at all levels that our personal life and things around it just went for a toss. We were sucked into a black hole where it was complete madness around. So much was the eventual pressure that within two years we decided to call it off. But then, one fine morning, we sat and without saying anything to each other decided to make it work. It worked! Guess, out of the two, she took a bigger load on herself and ensured that certain things never happen. I still need to work a lot on myself, but important part is it worked because we wanted it to work. There was intent, there was willingness, and there was love.
I guess this is applicable in any relationship; you act according to your willingness and intent of making the relationship work. Reasons can be plenty, these days there are enough problems, there are financial issues, ego hassles, career related stuff, personal differences, etc. But right at the bottom of it all is just these two or three things, intent, willingness and love. Funny thing is that I always debated about relationships, but I have been in some most screwed up of them. Guess, I became better by loosing lot of people around due to my madness, but that also taught me a lot. When I gained a few in life, I knew I have to do whatever it takes to keep them with me.
Relationships are integral part of life, you would not want to be alone at all, trust me, lot of people simply go mad when left alone. It’s an awesome feeling to be belonging to someone, to have someone to share your thoughts, or dreams. "Sharing" is the key, so i guess it shouldn’t matter if it comes at a cost of changing your personality a little or bringing down your egos.
To all those guys and girls out in the world, who want to have a person as per your thoughts, let me tell you, God had long stopped making those. Go find out someone who loves you, has willingness to have a family with you and the intent of surviving your nonsense. And most important thing of all; be prepared to love someone, and accept the nonsense from that someone. End of it, its amazing feeling to be belonging to someone.
I have been blessed with lot of relatives, friends, relationships, and a marriage that neither is an arranged nor can be categorized under love marriage. I think i too can write down my perspective on relationships. It’s actually quiet an interesting thing how the logics, or ill-logics, work every time when it’s the case of relationships.
Disclaimer: - I am an Indian and so is my perspective. I do not understand most of the things of the west, and hence would not be writing anything about it.
Let me begin with your relationship with parents. Most kids while growing up land in conflict with their parents. While it’s easy to term it arrogance of the kid and over protective behavior of parents, i believe there is actually more to it. Parents naturally have had larger share of life and also have their opinions on everything that has/is/will happen. While it’s almost impossible to live in the same world as your parents, I believe circumstances that they have seen or what you would see, hold striking similarity. The characters change, gadgets are different, locations are different, but if you sit back and think, the gist/core might still be the same as what your parents had gone through. I believe it’s actually wrong from parents to enthuse a solution as is onto their kid's life, but, it’s also wrong on kid’s part to simply write their parents off by stating that they don’t understand your situation. Win-win situation would be when the growing generation actually leverages ideas (not words or surroundings) from older generations and get out of a predicament. I do this all the time, sometime it works, sometime it doesn’t, but I guess at-least I get a whole new perspective about the situation. My source is my dad. His favorite line is, "go and make new mistakes, don’t repeat what I have done". Guess, in this, it’s important not to have any communication gap between you and elder generation. Again, both have to work towards it; they have to soften their stand while you have to be sensible enough to talk to them.
Second is relationship with your friends. These days I am increasingly witnessing a paradigm shift towards minimizing the differences between, friends, acquaintances and people who you simply have met once. Everyone is broadly getting categorized into one category as "Friends". I believe here is where the problem is, for you don’t want anyone and everyone to come close in life and know you as you are. You need to have someone who knows you inside out and who is not your love interest. I happen to be blessed with one such person in life. Vaibhav, met me on a railway station about 14 yrs back. From that day, we share a very special relationship. We are super buddies, yet we never give out “gyan” on what other one is doing, we never tell what each other should be doing, we are always for each other in thick and thin but without any form of "gyan". Each one of us enjoys his personal space while still connected deep inside. I don’t think I have ever told what Vaibhav should be doing in a particular situation nor has he done that. Even though we are two very different personalities we have been able to maintain the eagerness to meet the other, to be able to share sorrows, absolute madness and something’s very personal with ease. I guess, the gist lies in the fact that we don’t breach the line where personal life begins. But, I have vaibhav whom I call my friend. I have a few other close friends and with each one, I share the same method of keeping a line very well drawn. I would easily have 4-5 4am friends but the number is very less compared to a lot of other that I know. All others are good to have, nice to be with and so, I generally get along with people well, have lot of fun in the parties and go out. I like it that way, guess, whatever be the relationship, it’s absolutely necessary to have your personal space.
Third and most important relationship that I have is with my wife Nidhi. Ours was torrential, horrifying and mind-blowing wedding. I was hoping the guns would be loaded and firing would be witnessed, but nothing of the sorts happened and till date I feel very lucky to have been married on that day without any further drama. Now, let me relate back to what made me write this piece. I was reading this article which says "The problem with arrange marriage". I guess it’s just amazing how people write off something that has worked over centuries in my country and continues to work amidst all nonsense’s. I believe arrange marriages are difficult, but there is no guarantee that if it’s a love marriage it would work!! And that it will not have any problems. See, problems are not because of what kind of marriage you had, rather, it’s more to do with what kind of a personality you are. I can tell you, I knew Nidhi before marriage and we had good time to know each other. It was a conscious decision that we wanted to get married to each other. But when we got married, it was almost as if all hell broke loose. There were so many differences at all levels that our personal life and things around it just went for a toss. We were sucked into a black hole where it was complete madness around. So much was the eventual pressure that within two years we decided to call it off. But then, one fine morning, we sat and without saying anything to each other decided to make it work. It worked! Guess, out of the two, she took a bigger load on herself and ensured that certain things never happen. I still need to work a lot on myself, but important part is it worked because we wanted it to work. There was intent, there was willingness, and there was love.
I guess this is applicable in any relationship; you act according to your willingness and intent of making the relationship work. Reasons can be plenty, these days there are enough problems, there are financial issues, ego hassles, career related stuff, personal differences, etc. But right at the bottom of it all is just these two or three things, intent, willingness and love. Funny thing is that I always debated about relationships, but I have been in some most screwed up of them. Guess, I became better by loosing lot of people around due to my madness, but that also taught me a lot. When I gained a few in life, I knew I have to do whatever it takes to keep them with me.
Relationships are integral part of life, you would not want to be alone at all, trust me, lot of people simply go mad when left alone. It’s an awesome feeling to be belonging to someone, to have someone to share your thoughts, or dreams. "Sharing" is the key, so i guess it shouldn’t matter if it comes at a cost of changing your personality a little or bringing down your egos.
To all those guys and girls out in the world, who want to have a person as per your thoughts, let me tell you, God had long stopped making those. Go find out someone who loves you, has willingness to have a family with you and the intent of surviving your nonsense. And most important thing of all; be prepared to love someone, and accept the nonsense from that someone. End of it, its amazing feeling to be belonging to someone.
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