Most of us have either said this phrase or have heard it. If not from/to someone then i am sure that if u would've seen any of the bollywood flick then you would've come across this phrase. I often wonder whats so magical about this phrase? Why is that the moment one listens to these words, the entire brain stops thinking logically or why is that we become complacent once we hear this? I would like to take a dig at it in this blog.
I have often questioned the functioning of the brain and the act that's responsible for human actions. I believe that most part of our brain is logical and understands things in binary. The remaining part is the emotional part, which manipulates binary to justify the deeds. Which also means that if by some means one can capture the logical part of the brain, the emotional part will automatically gets captured.
Now coming back to what happens when brain listens these three magical words. I am sure with different people have different pitch of sound the harmonic impact can directly be ruled out. However, if we read these words as three different power shots (i cant say gun shots!!) these have just the right impact to make your brain loose the logical sense.
So, when a person says "i love you" i believe that these are the decoded messages that go in the brain...
1) I care for you
2) I want to spend rest of my life with you
3) I see a future with you
4) I want to have a family with you..etc...etc...
Now, i think that out of these if the brain interprets the statement to mean as point no 1 then i am sure it would leave all logical sense behind and would let the body loose. Which is probably why the literates define the situation as "weakening of the knees" in case of a lady.
Having said this, what happens when u switch off your logical sense off? first thing, you present yourself to be taken for a joy "ride". Now if the other fellow is only interested in "ride" then God help you. But if he/she is really interested in taking care of you, then they would do all thats possible in the world to make your life comfortable. Even if that means going to the maximum limit.
For males, i believe when they say that they love someone, it occupies atleast 50% of their memory. The 50% that i talk is of the part of their NON-oFFICE day. Males tend to be more indulgent in work (u can blame creator for that) and then after that the next most important thing is their hobby. If a male says that he loves his girl over the best thing that he wants to do then i am sure he is lying. Also, males believe that if someone has used these words with him, then by its basic understanding that someone would've taken everything that a male does as a part of their life, which i am afraid in not true in most cases.
For females, when they say i love you, they mean it, every single word, every single time. They divide their life into two parts, 1) Their love interest and 2) the rest. Obviously the first part take most of the time.
Which again brings us to a point where it becomes very clear, that despite it looking so logical "I love you" is the most complicated of the statements.I turns your day upside down, it makes you stop thinking, it makes to get dressed up, it makes you take bath(for males!!), it makes you clean your room (coz she might bump in to find your most important covers on the bed!!), it makes you learn a few good english romantic songs, it most definitely makes you a poet, it makes you talk politely, ... the list is endless.
But what i see these days is the most prolific of the statements, its getting converted into a fashion statement. People are using it more for a regular company then having to feel its actual power.
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Ego, atitude and life
Another piece on the humans that belong to the better half of the world. If you have read earlier blogs, you would realise that i have most simple brain in the world which means that i am only good with linear equations in life with two variables. Where in if i make one variable as constant and equate the next with another pre-defined constant the solution can exist. Offcourse i can most happily keep changing the values of both the variable that i have chosen as constant and the constant that i am going to equate the remaining variable with. Phew!! okies with the precedence set let me take a plunge into the topic that has made me compose this piece.
Human ego, human attitude and life lets take these variables and try and study a linear relationship amongst these. Also, we would understand each one of these and the parameters that influence them before concluding the relationship and find out if there can be a healthy outcome of these most complex things in anyones life.
Human ego, i suppose the parameter that influence this particular variable is the education. Now most of you would jump on to the debate "Education imparts wisdom" hence how can it impart ego-ism. I would like to tell you about a friend of mine, Sanjay, who had given a beautiful definition for this circumstance. He says that indeed education imparts wisdom and hence makes human humble but its the completeness of the education that decides whether the person would grow to become humble or whether he would grow to become arrogant. I conclude this variable by saying that that the phrase "Education imparts wisdom" is only half articulated unless we add another one to it which says "Half knowledge makes noise". Hence human ego can most certainly be controlled and killed only when one completes the entire cycle of education.
Human attitude, this is the brightest parameter in ones life. The seniors say that its the "attitude that determines altitude" (Punch line for INI Consulting's tee's) which most certainly is true. But the point of argument in here is not what it determines, rather, its the effect when it becomes negative. A person with a negative attitude can most certainly feel insecure about almost everything, be it love, life, work, family, etc. And am sure you know how a person with a negative attitude tends to behave. He is craving for attention, crying foul over everything, and most certainly trying to get away from all that is around him.
Now combine this with Human ego and what you would come across is a combination that determines what kind of life you would have. Sure then, lets start playing the game. Let me have a person with Positive attitude towards everything that he does (a constant) and let me fix his life as "Bad". Which would definitely reflect that he has huge ego. Which means that if tries to get "right" education and shed his inhibitions he would go on to transform his life into a good one.
Lets taken another example in the similar context. Let me have a person with Positive attitude towards everything that he does (a constant)and let me fix his life as "Good". Now the picture changes because the only possibility that exists in this case is the person also has a "manageable" ego. Which means that he neither rates himself too high nor too low vis-à-vis the world. Which also means that he has the patience to listen to the world as he would give equal opportunity to the world to put forward the points. Hence if i have to sum it up then the theory of relativity becomes prominent in the sense that i would pick and chose whats best suited for me and my growth as an individual.
The combinations can be several and you can continue this debate amongst the group that you generally debate in. I believe that the outcome will be quiet an eye opener for you.
In short, i have learnt this in my life, as you proceed in you journey upwards to the corporate pinnacle you need to have a right mix of Ego and attitude. Also, you need to shed your inhibitions to grow in life.
Human ego, human attitude and life lets take these variables and try and study a linear relationship amongst these. Also, we would understand each one of these and the parameters that influence them before concluding the relationship and find out if there can be a healthy outcome of these most complex things in anyones life.
Human ego, i suppose the parameter that influence this particular variable is the education. Now most of you would jump on to the debate "Education imparts wisdom" hence how can it impart ego-ism. I would like to tell you about a friend of mine, Sanjay, who had given a beautiful definition for this circumstance. He says that indeed education imparts wisdom and hence makes human humble but its the completeness of the education that decides whether the person would grow to become humble or whether he would grow to become arrogant. I conclude this variable by saying that that the phrase "Education imparts wisdom" is only half articulated unless we add another one to it which says "Half knowledge makes noise". Hence human ego can most certainly be controlled and killed only when one completes the entire cycle of education.
Human attitude, this is the brightest parameter in ones life. The seniors say that its the "attitude that determines altitude" (Punch line for INI Consulting's tee's) which most certainly is true. But the point of argument in here is not what it determines, rather, its the effect when it becomes negative. A person with a negative attitude can most certainly feel insecure about almost everything, be it love, life, work, family, etc. And am sure you know how a person with a negative attitude tends to behave. He is craving for attention, crying foul over everything, and most certainly trying to get away from all that is around him.
Now combine this with Human ego and what you would come across is a combination that determines what kind of life you would have. Sure then, lets start playing the game. Let me have a person with Positive attitude towards everything that he does (a constant) and let me fix his life as "Bad". Which would definitely reflect that he has huge ego. Which means that if tries to get "right" education and shed his inhibitions he would go on to transform his life into a good one.
Lets taken another example in the similar context. Let me have a person with Positive attitude towards everything that he does (a constant)and let me fix his life as "Good". Now the picture changes because the only possibility that exists in this case is the person also has a "manageable" ego. Which means that he neither rates himself too high nor too low vis-à-vis the world. Which also means that he has the patience to listen to the world as he would give equal opportunity to the world to put forward the points. Hence if i have to sum it up then the theory of relativity becomes prominent in the sense that i would pick and chose whats best suited for me and my growth as an individual.
The combinations can be several and you can continue this debate amongst the group that you generally debate in. I believe that the outcome will be quiet an eye opener for you.
In short, i have learnt this in my life, as you proceed in you journey upwards to the corporate pinnacle you need to have a right mix of Ego and attitude. Also, you need to shed your inhibitions to grow in life.
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